Relationship Big Shock Tonight

[ISupportHer]

Jawn,

Sometimes I just don't know what to say. I want to say things of encouragement but is that even helpful or enough? I can't say I know how you feel. I can imagine how you must feel. I just hope you continue to find some way to move forward. Maybe the serenity prayer? The part that says "help me accept what I can't change"? You may not be able to change the immediate situation but you CAN influence it by your own actions. By that I mean continuing to reach out, get help yourself. Avoid the temptation to lash out, if you feel that way. I probably would.

Thinking about you today.

ISH

 

[amethist]

Take care of yourself Jawn, we are here to listen to the good side as well as the bad. Hopefully this will just be a short term time out, giving you both chance to see it for what it is. A chance for your wife to heal and recover enough to come back to you, and chance for you to do the same.

We know this must be tough for you, some have been there and got back to a point where they can see further forward into the future. A future where they can live together again in a way that is good for both sides.

I hope this is how it works for you too.

Take care.

Amethist

 

[Tinyflame]

I'm not sure either Jawn what words would or could bring comfort, but I hear you, and my prayers are with you (too).

 

[Inouk]

Jawn - I have been following your story from day one. You are a strong man yet full of tenderness and understanding. You are indeed a great man (like many other folks here on this forum). Keep posting for you have so many supporters here. I send you positive energy and I am also a supporter. Take care as you have been, even when the tough gets going. Take care. Hugs 000

Inouk

 

[Jawn]

Thank you Inouk. I appreciate it.

Jawn

 

[seedling]

Jawn -
Lots of people have said it already, but I too am pulling for you and for your wife. I keep thinking of what you said of the 15 happy years you had together. I think often of you and also of her and hope the best for the both of you.

 

[Jawn]

Well today was a little tough. We took the first load of stuff over to her new place. I put together some new bar stools she bought and moved some book cases and boxes for her. We unpacked most of the boxes so she can reuse them for more stuff. I unpacked one box and she had one of our framed wedding photos in there, so I put it out with the other framed pictures that were going on some shelves. I hope that since she has packed a few photos of us together that she has not given up on our marriage completely.

I was able to not break down emotionally or get mad while we were moving and unpacking things. As I was driving home (in separate vehicles) I did break down for a little bit. Her official moving day for the big stuff is Friday and I am sure she will be staying there Friday night. This house is going to look empty and will seem lonely without her here. I am planning on going out Friday evening with some friends and to try and stay busy all weekend.

After we got home she asked about taking a chair I had custom made to her place and I said no. She got mad and said she was taking something else instead and stomped off to the bedroom. After about 30 minutes I went and told her to take the chair if she wanted to and she said no, that it was a stupid request on her part. I just want this to be civil and to not fight. Especially about things as silly as a chair.

I just want her to focus on her therapy and getting healthy again. That is the most important thing and our marital issues are secondary.

Thanks,

Jawn

 

[Deleted member 5760]

Jawn I have followed your story and just wanted to say I'm really sorry for everything you are going through. I sincerely hope things mend and that you are both stronger as a result of this. Best wishes from me.

-Jen

 

[Jawn]

Thanks Jen. I hope so too.

Jawn

 

[Iam]

My heart breaks for you Jawn. You have such a tender and true heart. You are doing the right thing and hopefully she will see that as she gets better.

 

[amethist]

You are being so strong by showing her how much you understand what she needs right now Jawn. Even though you don't want it to be like this.

I really hope this all works out for you both in time. You are doing the right thing by keeping busy and looking after yourself, hard as it is.

Come and pour your heart out on here if you have to, we will all understand and support you the best way we can, by reading your posts and just being here with you through the bad as well as the good of all this.

Amethist

 

[AdamAnt]

I hope things can come full circle for you Jawn. In the future there may be a new beginning for you and her, and you've done everything possible to let it be so. I'm sure it would be so easy to let negative emotions ruin even the chance at a new start. I don't envy your position, but I do admire the way you've handled it. Best of luck to you, hard I know, but try to find the good even in a bad situation.