Both Of Us Have Ptsd

[Cavegirl]

I have PTSD from childhood sexual abuse triggered by being sexually harassed at work. I was in a very dark place for about two years. On 5 meds, weekly counseling, outpatient all day therapy for a few months.

But I'm doing pretty good right now. I was released to go back to work last October. I couldn't find a job so now I'm a full time student finally going after my dream.

I'm seeing/just friends w benefits with a man that has combat PTSD from his three tours in the infantry in the Marines. He was in the taking of Fallujah.

Am I an idiot for wanting more from him? Can 2 people with PTSD ever make it? I feel like I have an advantage being a PTSD sufferer that is in a pretty good spot right now. My dad is also a sufferer of PTSD so I grew up with that. I feel like I might be strong enough and have the insight to be able to deal with it.

Or am I just being foolish? Is my PTSD being drawn to someone unattainable? Am I drama seeking?

 

[halflifeguy]

I feel like I might be strong enough and have the insight to be able to deal with it.

Sounds like you are starting with a great advantage.

 

[Cavegirl]

@ halflifeguy thank you for your reply. That's how I feel too. I've been spending a lot of time on this site reading. It's helping me be less crazy about wanting to talk to him all the time and be more able to give him space.

I know that I need to fill the void I'm trying to fill with him myself. But I don't feel empty. I'm actually quite busy with school and my family. I just miss him.

 

[Jenna Peters]

Your situation is so much like mine. Both my bf and I have ptsd...mine from being brutally sexually assulted by two men as a child and raped twice as a teenager and his being a former marine. Our relationship is very intense and difficult. That is why I joined this site, I need more insight and help. He's distant and empty a lot of the time. Its hard on me. So, to answer your question, no...your not drama seeking in my opinion. You were drawn to that man for a reason just as I was drawn to mine. Your not being foolish. The best advice I can give you at this time is the advice my best friend gave me who's engaged to a active marine...give it time...