A concerned spouse
Bronze Member
I've been where you are soooo many times it's almost embarrising to admit. I'm a giver by nature and for me I struggled with setting boundaries in fear of hurting anyone but I finally grew enough strength to set those boundaries and realized I was actually hurting my sufferer more by NOT setting boundaries because without boundries I allowed myself to get overwhelmed, bitter, angry and hopeless. When my sufferer lashes out, O calmly look at him, tell him I love him and he can be as mad as he wants to at me (that's his right) but I refuse to sit there and listen to it. I've noticed since doing this he works really hard on his behavior. They can't always control the PTSD raging inside of them but I know that I'm healthy enough and strong enough not to not allow PTSD to take me as it's victim too.
