Can It Be Sexual Abuse If You've Never Been Touched?

[Uca]

When I was a child, I was cajoled into performing certain sex acts on a person that I loved and trusted. In fact, that love was used against me - any reluctance I had, the person said, "Don't you love me? Don't you want to make me feel good?"
I did not understand what was happening. I knew I did not like it. I have one flashback memory of me saying, "It tastes funny."
So I feel like I am a sexual abuse survivor... yet I was never touched. My own "private" areas were not involved at all. It is very confusing for me. That's all.

 

[Rudu]

Turn it around a bit - if a child you knew, or you heard about, was being 'cajoled into performing certain sex acts' on an adult, would you consider that to be sexual abuse?

 

[Tuluvus]

Children performing sex acts on adults = Sexual Abuse of the child.

If it helps.

- If it was filmed or photographed would it be considered child porn?

- If a totally not-abusive adult had a child just walk up to them and start (attempting) to perform sex acts on them? They would STOP them. Not encourage them.

Attempting, because a kid just wouldn't get past reaching for the zipper, breast, etc, with a normal adult. It. Is. The. Adults. Job. to both teach & reinforce those boundaries. And not a hard job, either. It's not like, Oh I wish I could just...:yuck: Gross. No. Full stop. <<< NOT because the child is gross, poor thing; but because children are not sexual beings, are not sexually attractive, ever. They're kids, FFS. Not sex objects. The idea of any child sexually? Is just 12 kinds of wrong. >>> It is the easiest thing in the world to teach & enforce that boundary.