Cant Seem To Get It Together To Go Into Work.

[Jeenniee17]

The same week I got attacked I got promoted to manager and transfered to another store. The new store doesn't know what happened and I have been okay until recently I have been on edge and my guard is up. Today I simply cannot stop my heart from racing and crying. I do not want to go into work in this state but how do I tell my general Manger what happened, I am suppose to be there to help them out and I feel like a failure because I loosing my grip on myself.

 

[barefoot]

Have only just seen this - I replied to your other intro thread...

So this is just to add - if you don't feel able to go into work, you can choose to stay at home today...and that doesn't mean you have to tell your manager what's happened. You can tell them anything that will warrant a day off sick. I'm not a general advocate for lying! But with someone like this....the added pressure of feeling like you have to disclose things to your boss that are still very raw for you (and that aren't your boss's business ultimately - unless you want them to be) isn't helpful to you, I don't think... Try to put your needs first at the moment - and if that means you decide to take a day off, make it easier for yourself and tell them anything that just gets you that day off (food poisoning, migraine, whatever!)

Please don't think of yourself as a failure - you'll been through a scary experience and you're now having a very understandable reaction to it.

 

[The Black Phoenix]

I am not an advocate of lying either, but you have to protect your sanity as it has to be your first and foremost concern, not only to maintain yourself, but to be able to do your job in the future. This is usually where I pull out the "horrible can't get out of bed migraine" card. It doesn't sound like you are in a good place to tell your general manager yet nor should you feel obligated to do so. Take care!

 

[barefoot]

with someone like this.

I meant something not someone, btw!

 

[kona355]

@Jeenniee17 - You're not a failure because of a reaction that's been forced on you, any more than someone suffering injuries from being struck by a car. Emotional injury is just as painful sometimes. It's also a temporary effect that will heal when taken proper care of, though like with any deep wound a scar will remain.

Barefoot is right, taking a day off sometimes is just necessary so we can rest. I called it taking a mental-health day when I had to call in and simply told my supervisor I was sick. The definition of sick covers what is happening to you.

Putting your needs first in priority is actually fulfilling your role as manager. Taking care of yourself results in being able to take care of the needs at work.

Be gentle with yourself. You're obviously a good person or you wouldn't be bothered by what others think, or troubled by your work related responsibilities being put off even a day. Take care of you.

 

[Jessicak]

Jeenniee17, I find myself facing the exact same situation. In most instances I am able to come up with a reason I can't go if it is just to meet a friend or run a few errands. But when it comes to going to work I truly don't know what to do. At this point and time I know I can't hold a full time job and even just the part time things I am doing right now still lead to some days when I just can't stop sobbing. It is a huge battle just to get myself out the door. Any advice or wisdom you have as you deal with this issue as well would be very helpful!

 

[Jeenniee17]

Jeenniee17, I find myself facing the exact same situation. In most instances I am able to come...

I understand you completely. I usually remind myself that what happened doesn't control me even if I feel like I cannot get a grasp on things. This is my life and I have to fight for it. Even if it means putting myself first. If I can't go into work then I cant, I stopped worrying about what ppl say or think. All I can say is that to face each day at a time. Remind yourself you can get through this...it seems hard and impossible sometimes because you lose control to fear and anxiety, but just keep going. I found writing a very helpful way to get things out of me. I have been Journaling my whole life and now more than ever I have depended on it to get through the days. There are somethings that you cannot share out loud to people, maybe writing it down will help.