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CBT (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy) - Can you explain it to me?

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Kaylove498

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My therapist does multiple types of therapy and she said we're gonna begin first with cbt therapy.

She explained it to me for the most part but I'm still having a hard time understanding what it is.

Can anyone explain it a little better for me?
 
Basically CBT is designed to help people work out the link between their thoughts, feelings and behaviours, so like an example:
Thought: Everyone hates me
Feeling: Lonely
Behaviour: Isolating

I picked that one cos it's both pretty common, and has an obvious flaw in the logic. So some people are more aware of feelings, some more aware of thoughts and some people just act without knowing where it's coming from. But if you're able to understand how they link all together you're able to change whatever part bothers you. Like in the example above, if you're able to recognise that probably not everyone hates you and you're just feeling alone, you're less likely to isolate to deal with it and more likely to reach out, which is a more productive way to manage loneliness apparently :P

Hope that makes some sort of sense.
 
When I was looking for therapy, I went to one that did CBT and stayed for only two sessions. CBT is type of therapy that will ask you or more less to track your thoughts. and then the therapist will most likely help you align thoughts, feelings and behaviours as @Chris-duck shows above example (great example BTW).

CBT deals with cognitive distortions which is extremely blinding if you have some and in order to deal with affects (emotions, feelings) one may need to deal with cognition. In short, we can hide our emotions/feelings, but very unlikely we can hide our cognitive limitations.

I read somewhere that I cannot remember now...and I am paraphrasing to my understanding of it that we are all emotions, but how we tell our story is the cognitive (meaning using language). So seems like your therapist wants to guide you around how you tell your story and then work backwards to get in-depth where that narrative is based on (the emotions/feelings).

I may be giving you confusing answer but that is what CBT means to me.
 
The basic premise of CBT is that you feel bad because of your thoughts. There is some value in CBT theory. Cognitive distortions are certainly real and do have a definite impact on how we feel. It is probably reasonable for your therapist to start therapy by identifying what sorts of thoughts you're having that might be causing or contributing to your symptoms.

That said, I want to caution you about CBT, as well. It is my experience that I do not always have a thought that I can identify that is causing a feeling. That makes it very hard indeed to use CBT to combat how I'm feeling. CBT also argues that the thoughts always come first, but I really disagree that this is the case - or if it is, it happens so fast that the thought can't be consciously recognized and it's a moot point. I think lots of times, it's a case of what happened first, the chicken or the egg? With depression, lots of times people have thoughts about being worthless and that other people would be better off without them. If the depression is successfully treated with antidepressants, these thoughts go away. To me, that is evidence that the thoughts did not come first and were not the cause, the depression was.

Ok, that was rather long and a bit of a rant. The reason I wanted to tell you all that was not to diminish the value of what CBT can offer, but because it can also do harm by the premise that thoughts are always to blame and people can therefore control how they feel by changing their thoughts. Sometimes people start feeling guilty because they believe they should be able to think themselves better and that's not always the way it works.
 
I credit CBT with a whole lot - I did it in various formats for a number of years, and at first glance? It made me incredibly well-practiced at noticing my thoughts occurring, as a thing in and of themselves.

CBT gets you to practice noticing your thoughts, feelings and behaviours, as a potential way to prevent unhelpful thought patterns becoming unnecessarily destructive. Like has been explained above.

For example: Just because I'm having the thought "Nobody likes me", doesn't make it true. So, I don't need to run away from a situation just because I think nobody there likes me. Wow!

In fact, that's a thought that I have partly out of habit, partly out of cognitive distortions (like taking things personally when when they have nothing to do with me), and partly because it was conditioned into me by my trauma.

Practicing noticing our thoughts, feelings and behaviours throughout the day, and learning a skill that helps us understand how they might be inter-related, is the foundation to a lot of therapeutic approaches for PTSD, as well as a range of other mental health issues.

So in that respect, CBT can be taught in its basic general sense (so that you can apply it to your ptsd, but also to depressive or anxiety-based symptoms you might have). Alternatively, it can be taught specifically to apply to PTSD, so the general principles get fine tuned to the typical ptsd internal experience.

Having done both (and being a person who experiences a lot of depressive episodes), both were incredibly helpful. The process of learning CBT was, at the time, frustratingly slow and often I found myself thinking "but isn't that obvious?".

That's intentional! The learning process is typically very slow, partly so that it's easy for anyone to learn. But mostly, it's slow because the daily practicing is the most important part. For cbt to be helpful? It takes practice, and practice takes time.

By that? I mean that the content of a 6 week, or 6 month CBT program? You could probably cover in a few days. But there's no way around practicing, daily, for an extended period of time, for it to be truly helpful.

Like any therapy approach, I found that I got out as much as I put in. And when I started doing the ridiculously simple homework each day, I started to notice big differences in my level of insight, which I've taken and used in a range of therapy approaches.

It has its limits. For people with complex ptsd, for example, a lot of our emotions and behaviours are coming from core beliefs, rather than floating, spontaneous thoughts. But if the person teaching you is competent, they will go on to help you nut those out.

And being able to identify the core belief that is behind a thought, emotion, or behaviour as it is occurring? Is phenomenally helpful.

Behaviours that aren't helpful, in particular, are something we have a lot of control over, and can change in a relatively short period of time, if we've identified the thoughts, emotions or core beliefs that are driving those behaviours. CBT gives you the skills to do that, and being able to change our behaviours gives us a tonne of control over the direction our life is taking.

I also credit CBT with now being able to challenge the thoughts that I have, rather than just accepting them, and letting them dictate both my inner experience, and the way I react in situations.

Time I spent practicing CBT, for me, was definitely time well spent. A solution to ptsd all on its own? Not for me. But absolutely I'm grateful for how much time I spent on it.
 
@Kay9477 - I know this thread is from awhile back, but if it helps...This book (Dead Link Removed) is a solid, workbook-style resource for learning about and applying CBT. It's used in many hospital programs, and is written towards the client/patient perspective, as opposed to a therapist/clinician perspective.

Might be useful. Or, you can ask your therapist if they have opinions about it.
 
I've worked with lots of psychotherapists who specialize in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy over the years. And as someone who has dealt with depression for much of my life, they've helped me challenge and replace my old, negative, irrational beliefs with new, positive, rational beliefs.
 
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