Chaos

[sun seeker]

I'm wishing for the sensible metal roofs they have in VT and parts of Canada!

Well... Canadian with a metal roof here to disabuse you of that wish.

Or let me amend that. A metal roof would be nice with some planning. Some forethought. Not like in my house, where my landlord decided it would be a good idea to put a metal roof on a two-story house so that when it snows and then a foot-thick snow pack starts melting and slides off the roof, it slides onto the roof of the extension, and from there the whole accumulated load slides with a loud THUD onto the path beneath, which just happens to be right in front of the door, so when I want to leave the house I have to muscle my way out, pushing the snow aside with my full body weight, before I can get to shoveling the whole mess onto a growing snowbank on the other side of the path, which can reach five feet high or more.

I like my landlord, I really do. There's just this one small problem.

 

[shimmerz]

@sun seeker , I love the style you have for killing 'wish list' items. :joyful:

Well... Canadian with a metal roof here to disabuse you of that wish.

Seriously though, poor planning and super frustrating. Dare I say this would lead to chaos????
:hug:

 

[shimmerz]

14. Be aware of wonder.

I so need to work on this one. I am working on many things in this list. The chaotic stuff that is happening is killing this dream though. Working on it though! Thank you so much for the reminder.

Apparently the Universe thought you should Stay Home. :eek::whistling:

The Universe sucks ! On the upside, I am noticing that frustration, which used to completely freeze me up, is not having that effect on me any more. Hmmm.... maybe the Universe/God does actually have a plan....and isn't actually out to get me! Btw, I was rescued by a friend and he took me to his place while my car was towed miles away. Today, my friends, is another day. Hugs to all of you. :hug:

 

[Eleanor]

@shimmerz did I tell you about my colleague's extraordinary gift to me of the concept of "found time?" The idea is that if we are going to talk about "losing time" to stupid screw ups or inconveniences, it is only fair that we also include the category of "found time" when we get stood up for appointments, or can't go someplace for reasons beyond our control (particularly helpful in airports.) That is "found time." Free time you all of a sudden have that you didn't mean to.

This idea makes my life much less stressful and infuriating. I now LIKE it when students don't show up to meetings. FOUND TIME!!!! WOO HOO!

I'm glad there was some reprieve.

I love all the "snow day" activities in your community @Hope4Now ! But I'm still glad I'm not there...:cool:
@sun seeker , Poor house planning. Let me count the ways... We now live in a good one. I used to live in a house that the owners had built themselves (DISASTER) beautiful, but ... all the light switches were in the wrong places. You had to walk through the rooms to get to them. And the master bath had NO towel racks. Not a one. ?????:facepalm:

 

[sun seeker]

it is only fair that we also include the category of "found time" when we get stood up for appointments, or can't go someplace for reasons beyond our control (particularly helpful in airports.) That is "found time." Free time you all of a sudden have that you didn't mean to.

I had one of those yesterday. My therapist didn't get to me in time to tell me she was taking the day off sick, which meant a trip to town (1 1/2 hr bus ride each way) that I didn't have to take, on too little sleep. The found time, however, was good for catching up with a friend I ran into accidentally as I wandered around town in a stupor wondering what to do. Thanks for the new term!

 

[Hope4Now]

I so need to work on this one. I am working on many things in this list. The chaotic stuff that is happening is killing this dream though. Working on it though! Thank you so much for the reminder.

Sometimes I think the wonder is in the chaos if we can see it from a different perspective...like aren't we amazing creatures that we can go through all this and still get up in the morning (mostly) and still be kind to each other and still laugh sometimes?

Here's my "wonder" of today. Today's chaos, shall we say. I had a good night with a small portion of my writing group that made it out in the weather. Had a big brain scramble once I got in bed, but not as bad as sometimes, then slept through the night (which is a rarity). This morning, in the endless return drive from morning school carpool (hideous gridlocked traffic), I had another memory from my past return. It has been lurking in the shadows for a long while and BOOM. There it was. Not a flashback like the other. This was sort of more like a natural memory. Maybe suppressed rather than repressed. Who knows. Rather horrifying, really, and fills parts of me with shame...but the wonder of it was that I didn't go careening off the road or anything else. I just kind of stayed with it. And here I am at work. Yes, distracted and having a hard time focusing, but getting on okay nonetheless. Something has definitely shifted in my system!

Btw, I was rescued by a friend and he took me to his place while my car was towed miles away.

Yay.

I hope today is better for you Shimmerz. :hug:

 

[sun seeker]

Hey @shimmerz, I was wondering, did you get your car back yet?

And @Hope4Now, how is your house holding up?

Incredibly, it's acting like spring here and almost all the snow is gone, but I'm not holding my breath. I'm sending lots of warmth and sunshine your way.

 

[shimmerz]

Car is back! Was -40 F with the wind chill yesterday morning (according to a friend). Last time I felt that type of cold I was skiing at Lake Louise. Brrrrrrr!

 

[Hope4Now]

And [DLMURL="https://www.myptsd.com/c/members/24896/"]@Hope4Now[/DLMURL], how is your house holding up?

You're sweet to be thinking of me! The chaos continues! Thank you for the warmth and sunshine! I'm basking in it.
We got another foot of snow on Saturday night; the icicles from the roof are hideously gargantuan, and we awakened this morning to the drip, drip, drip from yet another place in the ceiling. Windows are piled with towels so we can't actually close them (the storms are down though), and there are buckets and towels in random places through the house. Sadly, this is probably not the worst it will get, as the temperatures are so very cold that the real melting hasn't happened. Due for more snow tomorrow. Horrid.
So...we're just stumbling through. Sadly, my husband is bearing the brunt of the work, because I've been having a difficult time with pain and some emotional stuff, and my son is in Central America on a service trip so can't help. This morning is a bit like deja vu of a week ago...am sitting here listening to my husband try to calm his uncle who is convinced the police are going to come and take him away to prison. Ay yi yi. Oh, and to add just one more thing, I have to take my mom for a cat scan this week because they think she has some rare and dangerous thing happening to her, but I can't tell her because she is so crazy anxious about her health that she will start calling me constantly and that will send me over the edge...

Car is back! Was -40 F

Yay! So glad your car is back! This cold front is completely insane, no?
Are you at your friend's house?
Let us know how you're doing!

 

[sun seeker]

(((@Hope4Now))) Oh no... what a lot of disasters all at once!

Let's all take a trip to Hawaii or someplace, what do you guys think?

Car is back!

Glad to hear that!