Choices

[Flutterbee]

I used to blame myself alot. I think it was my way of trying to get some control over the situation. It still crops up from time to time. Almost every day I wonder what life would be like if there had been no trauma. It's difficult. I'm trying to focus on building on the good things in life instead of greiving for what I don't have.

 

[Ronin]

I had a few thoroughly happy & bliss months following a head injury when 'my life' was such a non-entity (... well, so was walking and how to drink every goddamn day :hilarious:) but what I recall from that era, I wouldn't trade for.

My experiences, good and bad, & my reaction to them, however unfitting, make me me. A lot of what 'me' is. Lacking that isn't ideal utopic Better Place, much less something to actively wish for.

 

[Lotis]

The blame game. I am guilty of it in different phases of my life. I have learned after years of reflection and understanding that the "bad" things which happened when I was very young were out of my control because I was a child.
With that said I still do play the blame game in different aspects of my life.
If I only.........
didn't trust him
wasn't born
was smarter
had more common sense
fought harder
ran faster
wasn't curious
didn't like the attention
wasn't afraid
didn't fail
didn't take the walk
studied harder
pursued my dreams
wasn't so damaged
knew better
wasn't pretty
wasn't ugly
recognized the signs
didn't hold his hand
believed in myself
didn't quit
succeeded
killed myself
wasn't so needy
didn't need anyone
screamed

I could go on and on. Yes I blame and I wonder what if all the time.

~L

 

[Lotis]

Where as for us it's a shit ton worse, and we have to remember it all the time in dreams, flashbacks, intrusive thoughts, etc.

@NoWhereKnowWhere Yes! And then everything else that the average Joe deals with that happens to me (like a bad haircut for example) it is 100 times harder for me to deal with. I'll blame myself even when it is so irrational. I think this happens because it is how I've been programmed to cope. It is easier to blame myself than truly process it all.
~L

 

[lostforgottensoul]

Also all of the time!

 

[mamachick]

Also----All the time, but the could've would've should've's really serve no purpose. The best possible thing to do is to learn from our mistakes, the sooner the better.

 

[Freedomfighter]

Has anyone ever blamed themselves for your misfortunes? Do u ever daydream what life would be like i...

Ahem yeah, doesn't everyone do that?