Colorful and hopefully optimistic but maybe hateful occasionally

[bellbird]

Eee! Glad you're all okay!!

 

[Freida]

It’s a minor memory b

Minor my ass!

Hun that was horrific abuse! And it makes me so sad that the reason you don't see it is that it wasn't as bad as all the other abusive situations you were in. That just breaks my heart. :hug:

 

[littleoc]

Well, it's not "horrific," but it certainly is f*cked up. That's sort of just how teachers treated me. It got better when I was in high school. Those teachers cared a lot less about who my dad was, or if I was related to the town gays or not, except the vice principal actually. She told me that sexual harassment was deserved if I was hugging other girls. She was a piece of shit, lol

 

[littleoc]

I believe teachers around here were taught that bad children don't get better. I was told constantly that children who misbehave as kids don't change. They were obviously wrong. My mom claims I wasn't even a bad kid.

 

[littleoc]

My twin brother is disappointing me. On Facebook, of course, because he can't talk to me any other way, I guess. My friend tells me I should block him and I don't need a good reason to. I can't bring myself to do it, though

 

[littleoc]

My twin and I used to text all the time, but then he got with his wife (who, again, I must emphasize he met like a month online before marrying) and now every time I text him, he won't answer for days and then his wife will text me from his phone saying he was busy. It's gross.

To be honest he was never that nice to me, though. I was just attached to him because we're twins. My little brother and I are more twin-like than my twin and I, though. We were triplets growing up.

I should tell him I'm not only gay, but also trans. That'll make him block me and then I won't feel mean, lol

 

[bellbird]

She told me that sexual harassment was deserved if I was hugging other girls.

That is so f*cked up! I am so sorry.

now every time I text him, he won't answer for days and then his wife will text me from his phone saying he was busy. It's gross.

Ugh, that is so frustrating, and yeah, gross.
Do you want to maintain a line of contact with your twin?

 

[littleoc]

Do you want to maintain a line of contact with your twin?

Yes and no. I don't want him to think I'm pushing him away, I guess. But I also am just tired of him. He only talks about religion, his wife, or how he'll properly raise his son. Mostly he just talks about his wife and has nothing else to say except what his work is. He seems to want to be friends, but his idea of friendship is to keep sending me texts or messenger messages saying God thinks I'm sexually immoral. Whatever that means. He claims "even someone like you who only reads the Old Testament can find reference to that."

A bit offensive. Quite a bit. Very uncool. Demeaning, too, while we're at it.

 

[littleoc]

One time when I was arguing back, I said I don't take the Old Testament as fact (because it is not in my "opinion"), and he said that made my argument invalid and I had to argue with the text or else I wasn't a real Jew. He then gave me a lecture about how lots of Jews are converting to Christianity.

Another time I did use the text to argue back and he quoted the part that said women can't teach men. I lost my shit at that one though and he hasn't done it since.

When he used to live with me, he'd wake me up at 5am to tell me about his god and eventually I put my foot down. I told him it was stressing me out. I have problems sleeping. I don't like being woken up, at all, for any reason, even if I'm going to be late to work. Moreover, I don't like talking politics or religion or anything else "touchy" after the sun goes down, I told him, because it works me up and then I can't get to sleep.

He told me that sounded like an excuse to not hear the truth.

I'm not sure but he might just be an asshole :mad:

 

[littleoc]

I do get arguments like that from other Jews but I've largely had to cut them out. I got relaxed about it a little because someone on this site was "that" kind of Jew, but has only said mean things about my denomination a few times and not directed at me so I chose to ignore it because I still like the person. My brother isn't going to budge though. Argh.

 

[bellbird]

his idea of friendship is to keep sending me texts or messenger messages saying God thinks I'm sexually immoral

So demeaning!!!

It makes me sad and angry that he sends you those messages.

Would it be possible to message him and say that maybe in future you can have an open line of communication, but right now the messages you're receiving through it are not okay, and so you are going to step away from contact? Or something along those lines?

 

[littleoc]

Would it be possible to message him and say that maybe in future you can have an open line of communication, but right now the messages you're receiving through it are not okay, and so you are going to step away from contact? Or something along those lines?

Hmmm. That would be a good start. Then if he doesn't respect that, that's fine. It won't be a huge loss if he's going to keep treating me like this.

He's already cut off my little brother and my mom. My grandparents make me mad around this topic. My little brother and I are expected to not cut off my dad, but when my twin brother does it, or when my twin brother blocks his mom or little brother, it's "aw yes, my boy blocking the haters." It's really frustrating.

And also demeaning toward my twin. They literally are just happy he functions highly because he's autistic. Everyone in my family but my mom and little brother think autism = retardation (not a joke, they say this to me and I'm tired of correcting them constantly).

I have a cousin with Down's and she's smart and beautiful and also mentally retarded, and it's demeaning toward her as well.

Anyway, yes, maybe I will try telling him. He keeps doing group messages with his wife though so I might feel ganged up on. I suppose that's fine. If it gets out of control I can always just block.