Relationship Combat Ptsd Girlfriend

[LuckiLee]

I'm sorry you feel hurt. But he broke up with you. He's free to see anyone he wants. As are you. I wouldn't put my energy into someone who clearly doesn't want to be with me. But that's just me. ✌ &❤

 

[lostforgottensoul]

Could there be a reason why he is keeping me close, but not as close anymore?

But why hang out with her and practically be in a relationship without the title, when he is suppose to focus on himself. Literally a week before he left he was discussing proposal ideas with my aunt. Im so confused as each day goes by.

Hang out here and bit and I think your questions may get answered.

A PTSD relationship whether that is husband and wife, boyfriend and girlfriend, or family, isn't for the faint of heart. I know as my entire family have booted me out of their life for this reason and the last one now about the walk out now. A relationship with a guy? Forget it!

@Friday did an amazing job at voicing it. And thats not just combat vets as I am not a combat vet and deal with anger/rage/anxiety fueled rage explotions type of stuff. Jumping from one relationship to another is something I am known to do. The first few months of a relationship (the honeymoon period) is great! No dealings with real stuff. I can pretend I am totally normal and feel that way. After that timeframe where the rubber hits the road and real life hits the relationship and my trauma and issues start to play out in the relationship, I am gone, only to start a bran new one as I wanted to be in a relationship and loved but couldn't face my issues in a relationship. I just couldn't.

And any "excuse" would come from me to leave that relationship as fast as I could. I would straight on look a guy in the eyes and tell them that I hated them and they were scum of the earth (which was true for some but not true for others) just to get out of that relationship as fast as I can. To just start a new one.

Today I see that isn't healthy and with my therapist's help I have stayed single. But there are many reasons why he may have jumped in a new relationship. Maybe he does want to just be friends but maybe he is stuck in some unhealthy cycle like that. And a bazillon of other things that can be happening. He sounds confused about what he wants and explaining PTSD in "lay language", I am finding, just isn't possible to do much of the time. If you haven't researched it and really dug into it, it is just very hard to understand the issues it causes many times...I am finding at least with my family.

It's not for the faint of heart for sure and a PTSD relationship isn't for most people but certianly doable!