Confused

[earthcuddledraggon]

I think I had a trigger yesterday, I'm in a LDR (only relationship I've ever been in actually) and we were watching anime. Catch is that apparently the main character's parents couldn't take care of her and she ended up having fend for herself alone. That's what set it off.
But I told him that I couldn't watch the anime and he asked why and I told him that but he kept telling me that OBVIOUSLY her parents couldn't take care of her and me getting upset is useless or whatever. I went offline for a bit because I couldn't tolerate trying to talk to someone. Then I thought I should at least try again. So I did that and failed. And ended up doing I forget what the rest of the night but I didn't interact with anyone.
Today, though, I figured it would be done with, but I've been jittery/shaky all day and feel like I'm going to pass out without being sleepy. I also can't really connect with my own thoughts well. Would this be some sort of dissociation? What am I supposed to do to at least get the anxiety to go away?

 

[EveHarrington]

Dump the boyfriend who says feelings are useless?

The thing you’ve gotta learn is that the guys you meet online.....well you have a higher chance of meeting ones with no interpersonal social skills because these kinds of guys don’t meet people in real life, only online. So it’s something to look out for if you’re dating online.

 

[Freida]

@EveHarrington - agreed!!!! He is comparing your life to a cartoon -- seriously?

 

[Earthcuddledragon]

It's not the relationship that is the problem. I could care less about that; I've been pissing him off all day anyways since I set up an AutoHotKey script to basically spam him with one word a little less than every second.
It's the fact that I can't focus on anything or really do anything, I haven't been able to do much all day. I'll start playing a game but a few minutes later I can't focus on it. I can't cook because I already have the tendency to burn stuff without having practically 0 focus. The relationship isn't my problem, it was just explaining the trigger. And how it was probably worsened. I just don't know how to stop this stuff. I have never succeeded at using any grounding techniques (well other than self harm but obviously that shouldn't be used)... I just feel stuck with this stupidity.

 

[Freida]

Gotcha! That's a great first start -- you recognized the trigger, you removed what caused it, and you are aware you need help stopping the reaction -- be proud of yourself!

yep the agitation and no focus stuff sucks. have you tried the 54321 thing? 5 things you can see, 5 thing you can hear, 5 things you can touch....then 4 different things, then 3 and so on. It works for me because its a bit time consuming and can kind of make my brain shift gears

another one that works for me is listing everything I have to do tomorrow, this week, this month. No matter how small - like clean house on Sunday. It forces to me focus on the future rather than on the right now

 

[Gadgie]

Quote...........”another one that works for me is listing everything I have to do tomorrow, this week, this month.”

That’s weird, as I do the exact same thing, even down to the order that I’m going to do them in.

It gives me a reason to get up the following day, something to plan, sounds daft I know, but it keeps me going.