Tornadic Thoughts
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You can hold on to your big dose of shame as far as I'm concerned, @cherryblossom , et al, as I've had more than enough of that doled out to me by others in real life, thanks. I don't think asking questions for clarity is anywhere near the same as causing trouble, but as with everything else in life, we each have our own perceptions.
Not everyone absorbs, retains, or translates info in the same ways it is delivered, and questions, especially amidst changes taking place, are usually a welcomed and natural part of any process. I doubt if folks who are desperately seeking help in the moment they happen upon a place that feels incredibly helpful make time to read all policies and procedures before clicking to join. Perhaps in hindsight, but very likely not initially.
If anything, I think this serves as a good, albeit painful, lesson on how blindly, mindlessly, and trustingly many of us, including self, use and consume things, including the world wide web. Placing blame and shame serves no purpose, especially on a site dedicated to helping people climb out of a lifetime of feeling shamed for the actions and wrongdoings of others.
Not everyone absorbs, retains, or translates info in the same ways it is delivered, and questions, especially amidst changes taking place, are usually a welcomed and natural part of any process. I doubt if folks who are desperately seeking help in the moment they happen upon a place that feels incredibly helpful make time to read all policies and procedures before clicking to join. Perhaps in hindsight, but very likely not initially.
If anything, I think this serves as a good, albeit painful, lesson on how blindly, mindlessly, and trustingly many of us, including self, use and consume things, including the world wide web. Placing blame and shame serves no purpose, especially on a site dedicated to helping people climb out of a lifetime of feeling shamed for the actions and wrongdoings of others.