Dare I Disagree.... Anniversaries

[Sideways]

For all those people with seasonal depression, all's I can say is maybe it's time to jump on a plane & move to Australia, because yes, you are not imagining it - seasonal mood disturbance has been now been established in numerous peer-reviewed studies. The "Winter Blues" is more than just an empty saying:(

 

[NaeNae75]

I know I'm a little late to the party here....but I couldn't agree with you more! I know my s/o very definitely has "cycles" surrounding certain times of the year and they very easily can be attributed to known stressor dates that I have become aware of. Every August since 2012, my bf has "broken up" with me. EVERY SINGLE YEAR! He swears that it is a coincidence....I know better. This year he has already done the breaking up, but I think I need to try something different next year if he "comes back" this time. He hasn't broken off communication and has verified that our "rules of engagement" apply still....ie, tell as few people as possible and stay "faithful" to the other for the time being.....I need to pay better attention to these times myself and try to stay out of sight or something.... I wish they could admit it....

 

[Nessa7]

I just started two months ago, but I have been trying to keep track of my mood and symptoms to see if there are any patterns. My biggest anniversary is Christmas, which is pretty impossible to miss.

I agree with @shimmerz that some are a mix of things. Instead of August, one mine is at the end of April and early May. I am too bad at science to have the words for it, but there is something different about the air depending on the season. But there is seasonal plants and things that go along with it being the end of a school year for college students.

 

[NaeNae75]

I just started two months ago, but I have been trying to keep track of my mood and symptoms to see if th...

Good for you for trying to recognize it! That is a pretty insightful thing to do.

 

[Nessa7]

Good for you for trying to recognize it! That is a pretty insightful thing to do.

Thank you. I think it's a great thing to do and really recommend it. I haven't been doing it long, but I have already learned some things about myself.

 

[Changing4Best]

I don't remember consciously what date my rape occurred. I cannot even for sure say what season it occurred in, but I suspect the springtime. I have no proof of this though, and not the slightest memory that would substantiate it. It is just an inkling, now that I think about it.

I got sick all last WINTER, though, so who knows. The winter before that, I was not sick, however, and the rape occurred many years ago now.

It may depend upon the person, it may depend upon whether they suppress the memory or they ponder it deeply, who knows. Each person is different. However, I do believe that if a person believes strongly that the anniversary date(s) will affect them badly, probably they will. I also believe if the person strongly believes that they won't, and puts a lot of energy into making sure that they don't, it is possible that they will indeed be affected by them anyway. It is just a thought.