Other Dealing with Anxiety in 1 on 1 Meetings

[mszl]

I may have a little trauma after losing my previous job. Yesterday my manager asked me for a call with him and I got really anxious. Of course, he didn't want to for me, just give heads up before the next meeting so I'm on the same page as the rest of involved devs. I'm afraid, this will happen every time I get 1 on 1 meeting request...

 

[Lost in the Woods]

My mind always goes to the worst case immediately and quite frankly I end up creating the worst case due to my anxiety, etc. It is a tough hole to crawl out of but I am trying.

 

[mszl]

@Lost in the Woods when this hits me I try to ground myself but then again, it takes energy and I can't keep it up all three time.

 

[Lost in the Woods]

Thanks. I am still in the early stages of my ptsd journey. The anxiety thing is big with me and I just started medication for it last week. Some improvement but my life is so crazy right now with marital issues. Anxiety may be the biggest symptom of ptsd. It certainly needs immediate attention.

 

[mszl]

I hope therapy will help you @Lost in the Woods along the way. It may be long and bumpy but then you have us to cheerleader you along :-)

 

[arfie]

when this hits me I try to ground myself but then again, it takes energy and I can't keep it up all three time.

ditto here. i add on other therapy exercises, as needed, especially breathing exercises. singing and humming are also breathing exercises. sometimes the vocalizing provides me with cathartic release of tensions. yes, working those tools takes time and energy. nor can i keep them up all the time, but the tools work when i work them and they are worth the extra time and energy, as needed.

 

[Lost in the Woods]

Thanks. I restarted therapy about 6 weeks ago when I arrived in Arizona. Prior to that I was doing therapy in Utah but that therapist could not talk to me once I was out of state. Now I am back in Utah to do counseling with my wife. I am in our home and she has another residence through her work that she is staying at. My doc told me about a therapist that specializes in trauma so I left a voice mail for him and I have not heard back yet.