Death And Anxiety

[DeepRedViolets]

Whenever a death happens whether in the family or someone close to you happens do you ever become extremely anxious that others you love wil die in horrible accidents? I can't help but be surrounded by darkness and anxiety. My cousin just died from drugs and just like clock work shortly after I keep getting involuntary horrible visuals of other people I love dying in gory car crashes. Just feel complete doom and Lonleyness. So here goes the next couple of weeks.

 

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Whenever a death happens whether in the family or someone close to you happens do you ever become extremely anxious that others you love wil die in horrible accidents?

I tend to be pretty much the opposite, actually. The injury/maiming/death of everyone I love is one of those constant things in the back of my mind (and informs a whole lot of my daily rules/rituals; like never leave the last thing I say to a person as something I'd regret if either of us died in the interim), until people start dying. Then I sort of relax into crisis mode, and get very very calm.

 

[Rani G2]

@DeepRedViolets

extremely anxious that others you love wil die in horrible accidents? I can't help but be surrounded by darkness and Anxiety.

To a certain extent fearing death, circumstances of the death and the whole impact death can have upon us is normal. If I project my own fears on others, lets say I am not able to get on hold of somebody for many reasons, maybe cellphone vanished or busy working whatever, and I jump into conclusions, thinking something very horrible happend to this person, then I have to probably search for the reasons within my own self. It could be a attempt to handle any fear of your own on another level. This does make sense? Sounds a bit like a pseudo psychological phrase but if you look at that mechanism closer you might see that you are trying to engage with your own demons, but shift that fear to another mode. Engaging with that is seemingly simple than facing the real demon. Its just a possibility....maybe also not true at all.