Depression And Death

[Deleted member 541]

@Friday AGREE 100%. She needs to take care of her health FIRST and foremost, and then deal with the trauma shit. She also needs support @home, where apparently she isn't getting any.

@Snowflake do you have any friends or family that you can turn to? Does the hospital have social workers? I know ours does and they can hook you up with someone to talk to if you need. There are services out there, you just need to reach out.... hang in there, I'm pulling for you. Even if I'm pissed!!!!!

 

[Deleted member 541]

And I'm not pissed at you. The world, your drs, your husband and f*cking cancer.

 

[Snowflake]

And I'm not pissed at you. The world, your drs, your husband and f*cking cancer.

I see a psychologist and a psychiatrist. The hospital social workers are not for staff (me) -I see radiologist Monday -if they put off the form then I will try someone else-idk.

I have little support, my siblings -we don't stay in touch. Mother-omg no way-anyhow nursing home. I have no friends-aquaitances but no one to just talk/vent too. I left message for therapist at 5:15 saying I want to quit...therapy, work and life.

 

[joeylittle]

I'm glad you called your T, @Snowflake - and am sending you much support. Agree with taking sick-time, if you've got it, until the FMLA is sorted out. And as a patient with a diagnosis, you should have access to some kind of social worker or advocate - even if you need to just have a conversation instead of an appointment (if that makes sense).

When I took FMLA, if my psych hadn't been helping me with the paperwork, I have no idea how it would have actually gotten done properly. It's so hard to do this stuff when you're already fighting an illness (or two). Geez. :hug:

 

[Friday]

The hospital social workers are not for staff (me)

I would double check that.

While there were many hospital resources I couldn't touch as staff, the moment I became a patient, all those resources were at my disposal.

 

[Deleted member 541]

@Snowflake I'm hoping that when you wake up this morning that you tell the world to f*ck off, call into work sick, then crawl back into bed and STAY there.... :hug:

 

[Snowflake]

I went to work...lol... I have very little pto days left-

I see my 4 docs tomorrow- psychologist (I want to cancel-I'm pissed) , breast surgeon for follow-up, psychiatrist regarding meds and medical doctor for lightheadedness.

 

[Lotis]

Hi @Snowflake thinking about you!
I wanted to respond to something:

My husbands response was that's ridiculous-your not going to go through that -almost like getting cancer again is better. Doc did say mine was the slowest growing cancer and with radiation and tamoxifen the chances of it NOT returning was over 90%. He was amazed by how many biopsies I had -thankfully all benign.

My husband is majorly Depressed and says I'm fine compared to him. Pain is 10x worse with this surgery. I am in tears inside trying not to cry -miss my t and hate my t at the same time.

Your husband is not the one with Cancer nor the one going through everything you are dealing with - he has no say in what YOU choose to do. His comment was insensitive and idiotic quite frankly. I wish I could come help take care of you because there is nothing worse then living with a selfish husband who thinks the world revolves around him! I bet you are feeling pretty lousy not just from the pain but from him and your T and just the whirlwind of appointments and doctors you are seeing. Keep fighting because you are worth it. Please remember that. I know how depressed and hopeless you can feel. Just keep fighting.
If he is depressed he should go get help and not make you feel worse. I find that most men (sorry guys but it is my experience!) are selfish especially when something is wrong with them. If my husband comes down with a cold it is the end of the world and he doesn't move from the couch. If we are both sick; well he is definitely sicker than me! Friggin unbelievable!
I am not always on these message boards but I do like to check in on you and see how you are doing. Hang in there.
~L

 

[Snowflake]

Hi @Snowflake thinking about you!
I wanted to respond to something:

Your husband is...

Thank you! Yes I'm feeling quite overwhelmed

 

[Deleted member 541]

@Snowflake Girl, I am beginning to think that you are more stubborn than I am, and I'm about as stubborn as a freaking mule! Well, maybe by tomorrow afternoon, you will get the help that you are lacking right now. And I don't want to hear that your pissd and thinking about not going to therapy. I will hunt you down and kick your ass if you do!!!!!

I hear how upset that you are with your therapist, you've made that abundantly clear on here. I think it would be prudent to tell your therapist just how disappointed you are with her/him. Tell your T, that you wished that there had been a bit more------------(fill in the blanks). Blah, blah, blah. Open up the dialogue I think you might be needing to do.

Hang in there..... this too shall pass!!!! Hugs

 

[Deleted member 541]

@Snowflake Hey, how did things go today??? Did you find out from you Dr what's causing the lightheadedness? How did all the other appointments go??? I'm hoping that things went well and that you get some time off to rest. God, I'm sick of saying that, and you're probably sick of hearing it..... hugs.

 

[Snowflake]

@Snowflake Hey, how did things go today??? Did you find out from you Dr what's caus...

Almost 7pm-still working (supervised visit)

My therapist was okay-I was super emotional-my language wasn't always the best. Lol- she's worried.

My psychiatrist wants me to start lithium NOW. She said she can do the fmla-but it would be on the mental health basis nor the cancer.

My breast doctor suck a needle in me and withdrew a filled one of nasty/bloody fluid -from surgery. Otherwise it's good.

Primary doctor said lightheadedness is anxiety and stress. But they will do the fmla.