Depression

[cherryblossom]

Hmmm - I'm actually beginning my depression is actually "fall-out" from therapy. I don't know why I didn't correlate the two before. Just slow, I suppose

Vent
Now I have a load of work stress dumped on me, or I should say 'lack of work' stress...... "On with the fight" just doesn't really seem possible. I had two short hours of hope this afternoon, but that was ended abruptly with an Email. An ammended Occupation Health report that has taken 4 weeks (yes, 4 weeks!) to write, and is in actual fact not much different from the first report. Quite how it could take anyone 4 weeks to make such slight changes - I have no idea. And I now have 5 days to reply. Yes 5 days! It's ok for them to take 4 weeks, but I have to respond within 5 days!
The doctor (who has met me once) continues to insist that I'm not fit for work. how does he base that, on one lousy assessment? My GP supports my return to work - my GP who has known me for years, and who I was seeing at least once a week for weeks on end - he supports my return to work. The Occ Health Doc is now seeking a report from my Psychiatrist (who discharged me over a month ago, and I have not seen since October). I guess those facts work in my favour, but what a pile of cr*p. I want to fight, but all I feel like doing is crying. Bast*rds!

 

[Darkness Shines]

Oh, cherry, that sucks. I absolutely hate it when people at work take their sweet time getting us things, then act like we should respond right away.

It is so hard to try to keep ourselves up when everything around us seems to want to take us down. I just try to focus on work as little as possible at times like this and find something more uplifting to do. Like coming here.

 

[KP the nut]

Hmmm - I'm actually beginning my depression is actually "fall-out" from therapy. I don't know why I didn't correlate the two before. Just slow, I suppose :rolleyes:

Vent
Now I have a load of work stress dumped on me, or I should say 'lack of work' stress...... "On with the fight" just doesn't really seem possible. I had two short hours of hope this afternoon, but that was ended abruptly with an Email. An ammended Occupation Health report that has taken 4 weeks (yes, 4 weeks!) to write, and is in actual fact not much different from the first report. Quite how it could take anyone 4 weeks to make such slight changes - I have no idea. And I now have 5 days to reply. Yes 5 days! It's ok for them to take 4 weeks, but I have to respond within 5 days!
The doctor (who has met me once) continues to insist that I'm not fit for work. how does he base that, on one lousy assessment? My GP supports my return to work - my GP who has known me for years, and who I was seeing at least once a week for weeks on end - he supports my return to work. The Occ Health Doc is now seeking a report from my Psychiatrist (who discharged me over a month ago, and I have not seen since October). I guess those facts work in my favour, but what a pile of cr*p. I want to fight, but all I feel like doing is crying. Bast*rds!

Absolute Bast*rds. Surely they should follow your GPs lead. Mine supports me but has said about fit to work notice where she can recomend, reduced or phased returns.

If you are ready to return, get your GP to say that. BUT please don't rush it and do the coping thing - been there done that. Phased returns are much easier especially if you have been away for a while. It is emotionally and physically exhausting. So sweet CB, take it at your pace.

Love
KP

 

[cherryblossom]

Thanks KP. I HAVE to return to work. Otherwise, they have made it quite clear that they will fire me. It honestly wouldn't suprise me if they gave Occ Health a back-hander to write a bad report. That might sound paranoid...... in fact I know it sound paranoid, but it honestly wouldn't suprise me. Nothing would suprise me, in how low they would stoop in their bullying and harassment. (Ok - I do sound paranoid LOL!)

 

[cherryblossom]

My GP recomended a phased return last month - but they are ignoring that, and awaiting the Occ Health report. Occ health had the cheek to phone my HR department yesterday to tell them the report was delayed, because I had asked for ammendments. I asked for ammendments on the 21st December - it's not my fault they took 4 weeks to re-write it. I could understand it if it had any massive changes - but it's hardly any different to the first report!! And that is the only reason HR rang me today - to ask why I was delaying the report!

 

[deer_in_headlights]

((((((((((((((Cherryblossom)))))))))))) !!!
Yep, they sure are turds... (jerks, a whole number of descriptive terms I would use,but then would need to wash my mouth and brain out with soap...)

(Yes, what is it about "Officals who can destroy your life, and their stupid reports"? I had to send out an overnight reply yesterday to an official report that did the same thing,... it was dated a month prior to the actual postmark... maybe it's a good thing you got it in an email... if mailed, it might have arrived a day after your reply was due...)

Is there anyone who knows how to do this paperwork and lift the burden from you (inexpensively)?
I haven't found anyone here, but that don't mean there isn't an organization that knows how to guide and support you through this cr*p (shoulder shrug?).

I've already been bawling today, you can borrow my shoulder, Sweetheart!
(((((((((((((Cherryblossom)))))))))))))))
Sending love, hankies (and chocolate!)
Deer

 

[cherryblossom]

I have sent the report to my union rep, but I'm not sure what help he will be. He also takes a day or two to respond (probably because he is so busy!), which just adds to my stress! I will also have to speak to Occ Health because I have a few questions I need to ask.
I've tried to get help from citizens advice a few months ago. They were very pleasant, but completely useless.

In all honesty, I think I need a solicitor - but that is far from cheap, and I don't have any spare money.

Thanks for your kindness KP, and Deer. I don't need the hankies just yet - but love and chocolate is always welcome!!

 

[Jade-]

Hmmm - I'm actually beginning my depression is actually "fall-out" from therapy.

I'm glad you finally realized that CB. Nice little light bulb moment isn't it?

Sorry you're still going through all the shit with work.....I hope it all works out well for you.

 

[Ladyhope Somerset]

Hi Cherryblossom

You've been in my thoughts even thought I've been away from the forum for ages.
Sorry to hear Occ Health are being ar*es. Some solicitors specialise in employment law but I guess your employer is playing it by the book, according to HR policies. Still, I think you might be able to get a 30 minute free consult for advice from a solicitor but do check it out.
Also, your union rep might have mentioned ACAS, I'd be giving them a ring or have a look on their website.

Here's a virtual hug, healing thoughts and some more chocolate

 

[cherryblossom]

Thank you Ladyhope. I actually don't think my employers play it by the book - they certainly don't follow their own policies (for example keeping in regular contact with employees off sick) - but I won't go into all the details.

I have looked at ACAS before, but had forgotten. I will have another look into that tomorrow - thanks.

 

[cherryblossom]

Why don't people reply to emails or just answer the f*cking phone?

This is what stresses me out.

 

[Srain]

Not responding to emails and phone calls is such a game, no wonder you are so frustrated with just that element!!

I don't have much to add so I will keep you in my thoughts,
Hugs