Desperate - therapist disclosed csa to mother

[Deleted member 44579]

Our lives we can mess up.

I think in some countries depending apon if you are were threatening to harm yourself or others... Disclosure of abuse is allowed.

Talk to her... Tell her how you are feeling... But I totally understand trust is a huge issue. If you can't then write to her and request another therapist... Good luck

 

[NoWhereKnowWhere]

She absolutely should have her licence revoked. If you don’t feel up to reporting her right now that’s ok. You might in future change your mind so write down everything and everyone involved all the dates and so on so if in future if you want to report her you have all your ducks in a row so to speak.

I’m so sorry this has happened to you it’s an absolute betrayal of trust.

 

[Abstract]

I am so sorry Star. I can only imagine what you are going through. Her discussing this with a third party and mutual friend seems extraordinary. At a guess she was probably trying to engage someone who could support your mother but that is no excuse and it would be illegal.

There isn't a legal obligation for therapists to disclose but in certain situations there actually is an expectation. It may be worth looking into that and any documentation you signed when you started therapy with her. Link Removed
NOT like this has been done with you.

Particularly if they feel others may still be exposed to potential harm. Definitely if they feel you are.

Can't imagine what this would do to trust. Just know your safety and protection is most important.

 

[littleoc]

She sounds like she has no values when it comes to confidentiality- I'd report her.

I’d report her as well.

I too would report her.

Report her.

I agree.

I think reporting her doesn't necessarily give you answers....

But I am curious about this... although in this case with the little information I do have, I think I'd still report her or at least tell her that I would like to switch therapists to someone who doesn't have a mutual friend with my mother. I mean, this is a huge violation. Privacy violation, one that should never happen and has caused real damage.

One time a nurse in my area forgot to wash her hands before putting an IV into my sister. My sister almost died from antibiotic resistant staff on her heart with its weak valves. The nurse was not told that "everyone makes mistakes." A serious rule was violated and someone almost died.

Luckily this case isn't as life threatening, in the same way. But I'd still report her. That's dangerous and damaging at best.

 

[Rumors]

I could "almost" forgive her if she just told your mom but to tell a friend of your moms who then told her is shitty... sorry!!!

 

[KwanYingirl]

I’d report her. There is nothing she can say to support her actions. Bad enough to break confidentiality to your Mom but to have told a friend, that is so wrong. This is unethical.

 

[Gs172003]

What she did was unethical if it's not illegal where you are. Here there are laws against it. I would never trust a therapist that flat out, let's face it, lied.

 

[Gs172003]

I couldn't find out ANYTHING about my daughter when I took her to counseling and she was a kid. Unless she was a danger or in danger nothing was allowed to be disclosed to me.

 

[Abstract]

Just thinking what is important at the moment is that you are safe and getting some support. Are you safe? Is there anyone you trust or would go to for support at present?

Remember too that there are safe and reliable people in the world. Betrayal tends to steal that view away from us.

 

[Neverthesame]

I'd report them. That was very wrong of them to spout your very private information as common gossip. They are supposed to be a therapist, not a fish wife.
If for whatever reason they felt it necessary to report what you disclosed to anyone. It should have been the police, as you are an adult. They should never NEVER! Have told your mothers friend, certainly not in a way that made you identifiable.

Speaking for myself, I wouldn't have any further communication with this therapist, as I'd likely be arrested after.
If you feel it would be helpful to do so? Good on you, just be prepared to hear a tosser sputtering excuses from their fat gob, rather than the apology you deserve.

 

[Star76]

Just thinking what is important at the moment is that you are safe and getting some support. Are you sa...

Thank you so much for this - it made me cry. I am safe - plodding through and taking each second as it comes. With regards to support I’m currently not getting any though will hopefully meet a psychiatrist this week as I’m not sleeping and eating (I’m anorexic). My T was the first and only person I have ever truly trusted. You’re right I need to remember that their are good people in the world that I can trust.

 

[Star76]

Thank you all for your messages of support it’s a relief to know that I’m not alone and that I’m not the only one in thinking what she did was a confidentially breach. I am going to wait it out and see if she contacts me when I don’t turn up to my appointment, see what excuses she makes for her actions and then go from there x