Did I Mess This Up?

[Mejumez]

she just struck me as so ... vulnerable and 'little and scared'. That may be my projecting on my part but i figured if she felt as vulnerable and little and scared

It sounds like she may have needed therapy herself. Therapists are still people, and I can tell you that many of them are just as f*cked up as we are. Many people put therapists on pedestals and assume they don't have issues themselves, which is just flat out wrong.

Mejumez, did you end up going for therapy with someone that was more experienced?

I did find someone who had a lot more exprerience, like 20 years of training in family estrangement and ptsd particularly, so I was looking forward to working with her, as she'd been personally recommended to me by one of my teachers at my therapy course...but she made a few bad mistakes in the first two sessions, and it was more than I could just let pass...and when I confronted her and expressed how I felt, she tried to turn it all around and make it out to be about my habit of cutting people off, instead of taking resposnability for her own f*ck up. SO I left.

I'm seeing an art therapist now, and she's pretty good...though I've had at least one red flag, or an uncomfortable moment with her, put it that way. I should probably start a thread to see what others here say, but it was just one thing. The rest has been ok.

 

[Dodip]

Hi Mejumez, It just reminds me that sometimes we are a lot more aware of the issues and a lot more aware of what's required to help us than the practitioners that go to school to figure out how it's done. I have a lot of trouble with the 'go to' defence which is to 'blame the client' - don't they see we are the 'experts in this... Geeze, you would think they would learn how to listen to or watch for these cues. They are in the business to help up but their systems sure aren't constructed that way.

 

[Mejumez]

Hi Mejumez, It just reminds me that sometimes we are a lot more aware of the issues and a lot more aware of what's required to help us than the practitioners that go to school to figure out how it's done. I have a lot of trouble with the 'go to' defence which is to 'blame the client' - don't they see we are the 'experts in this... Geeze, you would think they would learn how to listen to or watch for these cues. They are in the business to help up but their systems sure aren't constructed that way.

I feel the same way. I think sometimes just the act of making an appointment is enough to signal to our inner healer that we are committed to getting better, and THAT is what actually helps us progress. The therapist themself is incidental in a way.

 

[Mejumez]

Oops...posted it twice. :D