Did U Ever

[Ludeku]

Did you ever wish that you could undo something in your life that cause so much pain? Did u ever think you could handle things on your own but then something happens years later that bring the biggest mistake back? Did u ever confide in someone about this mistake only for them to tell u that maybe your mind is twisting the details and maybe it didn't happen like that so maybe u need a break.

 

[Dihicut]

I guess since I know we cannot change the past, I don't ever recall having wished that I could. It sort of goes against the current, I suppose.

I've learned over the years that I don't always know what is best for me, so I leave the handling of things to God because I know He has my best interests in mind and He is in control.

What happened to you that caused you to want the answers to these questions? Maybe someone here has had similar things happen to them and can give you some good advice about how to solve the problem(s).

 

[Ofeter]

I made a mistake a few years ago and got hurt by 2 guys on a business trip

 

[Miwa]

Yes, I can see how that would cause havoc in your life. I'm so sorry that this has happened to you.

One piece of advice I can give you is never to leave a drink of yours unattended. If you need to use the rest room, take it with you. This way, no one can put a date rape drug into it while you are away from it.

 

[Warelu]

Did a therapist tell you this?

 

[Pupop]

I mean to the OP - Did a therapist tell you this?

 

[Ofeter]

Yes. She said I need a break

 

[Uweb]

Wow that's awful. :hug:

Maybe time to find a different therapist?

We all bring a biased perspective on our lives to therapy, and sometimes we need them to tell us that we are missing information or that we have a blind spot. Therapists can help correct our distorted self judgements and thoughts about our mistakes.

But to say that a break is needed because they think something didn't happen as your portrayed it, well that's bad therapy.

It speaks more to their incompetence than your mistake or what you need.

You did a brave thing by sharing what you did. Please do not let this one person's mistake, yes the therapist mistake and misguided advice that a break from therapy is needed.

Tell them what you need: if they can't do it, don't take it as any kind of judgement or statement about you, but them, and find someone who can help. :hug: