I agree with She Cat. The mother doesn't know what's going on, and whilest her actions are hurtful, people will usually do anything to protect their children, and somehow she views you as a threat.
If you love this girl, you may have to end up getting to know her family, and it's somehow gotten off on the wrong foot. I would maybe take some flowers round, ask to sit and talk with the mother, and explain to her as much as you're comfortable with telling her. It's not going to be easy, but if you love this girl and she's worth it, then persevere!
I don't have PTSD, just happen to have had a very sharp learning curve this year about it.
If you read my last post on 'How much do I tell my partner', I would personally say go for it. Let her know. She loves you, she'll be scared for you and will likely panic and not know what to do if she witnesses it without being warned about it first. What happens if she thinks you're having a seizure and calls the ambulance? I swear, when my best friend/ex started passing out then thrashing around whilst unconscious, the only reason I didn't call the ambulance was because the moves looked purposeful rather than convulsive, and then he was talking and thrashing and woke up begging me not to hit him. If I had known this was a possibility of happening, I would have been able to prepare, been able to keep him calmer and he wouldn't have ended up so scared.
It is difficult as well. Our close friends told me he was putting it on, that he was just attention-seeking and it was all an act that I was being fooled by.
But I KNEW it was real, I knew he wasn't taking me for a ride, and despite not knowing anything about it I basically said 'screw you' to those people (not so close friends now) and basically clung to him as hard as I could, without knowing anything about it, knowing that he's a good actor and that the possibility of it being an act was there, but I couldn't believe that - if I believed that then I would have had to start checking for camera's under my desk etc.
So months later it turns out my instincts were right, we've both got better friends, and he is in such a good place the past couple of months.
So please, tread carefully, use your own jurisdiction, but just saying that my situation would have been better had i been told what to expect and how to handle it.
XOX
If you love this girl, you may have to end up getting to know her family, and it's somehow gotten off on the wrong foot. I would maybe take some flowers round, ask to sit and talk with the mother, and explain to her as much as you're comfortable with telling her. It's not going to be easy, but if you love this girl and she's worth it, then persevere!
I don't have PTSD, just happen to have had a very sharp learning curve this year about it.
If you read my last post on 'How much do I tell my partner', I would personally say go for it. Let her know. She loves you, she'll be scared for you and will likely panic and not know what to do if she witnesses it without being warned about it first. What happens if she thinks you're having a seizure and calls the ambulance? I swear, when my best friend/ex started passing out then thrashing around whilst unconscious, the only reason I didn't call the ambulance was because the moves looked purposeful rather than convulsive, and then he was talking and thrashing and woke up begging me not to hit him. If I had known this was a possibility of happening, I would have been able to prepare, been able to keep him calmer and he wouldn't have ended up so scared.
It is difficult as well. Our close friends told me he was putting it on, that he was just attention-seeking and it was all an act that I was being fooled by.
But I KNEW it was real, I knew he wasn't taking me for a ride, and despite not knowing anything about it I basically said 'screw you' to those people (not so close friends now) and basically clung to him as hard as I could, without knowing anything about it, knowing that he's a good actor and that the possibility of it being an act was there, but I couldn't believe that - if I believed that then I would have had to start checking for camera's under my desk etc.
So months later it turns out my instincts were right, we've both got better friends, and he is in such a good place the past couple of months.
So please, tread carefully, use your own jurisdiction, but just saying that my situation would have been better had i been told what to expect and how to handle it.
XOX
