Do You Find Yourself Dislike Being Touched?

[LeoTheLion]

Wonder if dislike being touch like hugging, or sit/stand right next to you that have physically contact, or touch your head anything? any of those make you antsy? or anxious or what? I often find myself dislike to be touch it makes me uncomfortable. Any thoughts or sharing?

 

[intothelight]

I can only stand to be touched by people I know and trust. Actually, I like the affection and have not problems with it.

If I do not know someone very well, or for some reason I am wary of them, touching in not an option. Actually, I cannot even let them within two feet of me. I find my self backing away, and if they continue to keep moving forward, I will position myself behind something.

Actually lit a cigarette once just to keep a person from invading my space. They didn't get the hint, but avoided me like the plague after I lit up.

 

[anni]

Excactly, exactly what ITL said, to the point of having dug out the cigarettes more than once, so wierd there!!! You did that 'thing' again.I've done that pre-emptively, isn't that offensive? ( before anyone says anything, yes I do realize cigarettes are both unhealthy and offensive to others ). I very much dislike that hand on the arm as someone leans into you while in conversation thing, and the hand on the back if someone is guiding you to a seat somewhere. You know that thing the docs have to do where they have to listen to your heart? He always says 'Your pulse is fast" , well HA, yes, yes it is, because you're touching me. Poor guy, one doesn't SAY this to him, since he's only genuinely helping.

 

[Deleted member 6617]

Hugs from people I know are great. But....if anyone reaches for my face...not a good thing. Getting better with people I trust, but still flinch or get the deer in the head lights look. Crowds are bad too, too much physical touch that is uninvited. UHG....gives me the willy's just thinking about it.

 

[Sethe]

I hated it as a kid (still a little wary). My Mom used to think it was funny that I didn't like it and did it anyway. Go figure.

I grew into it as an adult.

Sometimes the bf can still make me jump if he manages to sneak up on me.

 

[macelia]

What I hate about being touched is that I interpret it as sexual and get confused. A hug, a touch on the hand, just about any kind of touch. It makes me feel ashamed and guilty, even though I haven't done anything wrong and I absolutely don't have any sexual interest in the person. After so many years I still have the same response. It makes me sad that I can't just stop the way I feel.

 

[Jade-]

I absolutely cannot stand to be touched or have my personal space invaded. It does something to me that's really hard to shake off.

I'm ok with hugs from my kids, but that's about it. Anyone else and I either pull away or stiffen up.

There's 2 places that if touched, send me into a frenzy....one is my back. If anyone touches my back, even lightly or accidentally, I feel such physical pain and terror and I flip out and yell and cuss at whoever has touched me. The other is my arms.....like when someone taps on my arm to get my attention. It feels the same as being stabbed.

 

[externalsmile]

I hate people I don't know touching me. Actually most people. I only like close friends having physical contact from close friends and even then only for a brief moment. I hate anyone standing too close to me or standing over me.

All these things have just magnified with me after the year of being stalked.

 

[Sethe]

I had a student who would get REALLLLLLY close into my personal space, and it triggered the holy hell out of me.

I think this person was doing it to manipulate me (trying to be all chummy, etc.). It's a wonder I didn't freak out in class.

 

[Tinyflame]

I used to have no barrier to touch itself, with people I trusted, I liked hugs. However I have to work (provide personal care) for others within their personal space, and I absolutely despise it. I think I'm going to keep a wide bearth from others, as far as myself goes, at this point I don't want to be near anyone at all.

 

[kers]

I generally can't stand being touched, and I can never predict if it will terrify or enrage me. I do a sport that involves contact and it's good exposure, but sometimes makes me dissociate. That said, I won't say no to a hug from my best friend every once in a while.

 

[Moony]

I don't really like to be touched. I'm getting better with it though. Close friends and family are about all I can stand. It's so nice to finally find people who feel the same. I just thought it was me being crazy. If I know they're going to touch me, it's better because I can sort of mentally prepare. Like they've got 'permission' to enter my personal space. If it surprises me, I usually flinch at best.