Do You Find Yourself Dislike Being Touched?

[livergirl70]

Thanks for coming up with this Leo, I thought I was just a bit weird.

I can hug my son, no problems, I can put my arm around someone to comfort them - if they are really distressed, but if someone tries to hug me it freaks me out

 

[Spero3]

I could not stand it when my ex husband touched me. He made my skin crawl. I realize that I feel safe receiving affection from another woman, but I feel leery of men. I feel bad saying this, but I think it is because I have had so many men be inappropriate with me. Between that and my husband, I always feel like a man may take something I do or say as license to come onto me. So, I am stiff with men (except my sons). Other than that, I love physical touch.

I agree with the idea that maybe taking baby steps towards being touch (or touching others) is a good idea. Maybe the more you hug, the more comfortable it will feel.

Spero

 

[Lionheart]

I really only have problems with uninvited touch, especially someone walking up behind me and touching me. Still there are occasions when I want and do not want to be touched at the same time.

 

[Poppycocteau]

I never liked it much in the first place, which I retrospectively put down to having Autism, but I'm a lot worse with it since developing PTSD. Interesting. My sensory issues, such as hypersensitivity to sound and the sensations of clothes on my skin are much worse too.

 

[BrazenBull]

Aww man, I dont even know where to start, pokes, taps, hugs, or even standing to close in my personal space just sets me off. I'll either get real scared, or real angry at the person (Usually angry if its someone I know)
Once in a while I think I like being touched like when one of my female companions grabs my arm and walks with me, then they ask me why im shaking/shivering and im like "w-what? I am? ohh don't worry about it its nothing", I also get all stiff without even realizing it :X

 

[randomnessme]

i get this too, but i dont like being touched by anyone, only really really close friends. i hardly even like being touched by my family. although sometimes its okay. like i can be touched by people, but sometimes i cant stand it. i just freak out, and get short of breath. its sorta hard to describe. but i hate it. and i dont even know what triggered it off, or why this happens. it just does. and it sucks

 

[SpokaneSunshine]

I used to be very stand-offish when it came to touches. Now I adore loving touches from those I trust. Note, there are very few that I trust. I'm tolerant of casual hugs and touches in public, but the guy I recently broke-up with used to think it was funny when he grabbed me from behind and startled me and I hated that. I think my body language when I'm sober gives people the message not to get too close, and when I'm drunk I'm more happy and sociable anyway, so it doesn't really bother me. Except when I start getting anxious and fuzzy and dizzy and confused. Then I prefer people to stay away, so I lock myself in the bathroom stall or my car until the feeling passes. Gosh, this is a terrible answer, sorry.

 

[drgnfl2078]

Depends on the person for me. I can relate to the getting sexually confused by it. Its like I don't know how to get comfort from men from platonic touch and then I do bad things like sleep with people I shouldn't. (lost a 10 year friend that way :( ) Even with women I think I'm just pretty mechanical about it...businesslike if you will.

 

[bittersweet]

I used to HATE being touched in any way by someone other than my husband. I still have problems to some extent even after being medication. People I just met or don't know well enough aren't allowed to get within 5 feet of me and can only shake my hand.

 

[broken_one]

For me it's not just touch, it's space. Don't stand so close to me.

 

[Gamereign555]

I have to be pretty comfortable to be okay with it. If I'm anxious about anything then I don't like it. I get that way when somebody is talking to me also when I'm stressed about something. I will put out the vibe that I don't want anything to do with it.

 

[bubblegum84]

I am reliant on touch from only my partner, if I don't get a cuddle off my partner when I need it, I fall apart inside. However when my aunty tries to hug me or give me a kiss goodbye, I flinch abit, it feels unnatural, another one is men, a man trying to be remotely physical with me, even putting their hand on my shoulder for a second makes me want to run away or lash out because firstly I feel violated, something I dealt with many times in my life.

I give off a very frosty atmosphere to anyone that breaks the rules regarding my body space whether they know them or not, which makes me look like an icequeen. When I am ready for physical contact though and feel safe, I genuinely enjoy it and it really helps to heal some of my trauma by opening up to another human being, it shows I am still capable of trusting people.