Do you have maladaptive daydreaming?

[ms spock]

It does take a lot of work @Sophy I am having problems with this again today, but I am doing better overall.

 

[Deleted member 47099]

Which grounding techniques do you use to try and get out of it?

 

[hithere]

I haven't read this whole thread, but here I am sitting for hours. Literally hours have gone by that I have wasted. I feel very lost so much of the time and then I don't know which direction to take or what to do next when I snap out of it for awile. I end up doing nothing. It was so much easier when I was a work a holic for 25 years. I hope I can stop this scrolling of the internet, and daydreaming enough to read this entire thread. It will actually take a big effort to do so.

It is really hard to describe, but it is a form of Mindful Movement. But it is more of undoing than of actually doing. You don't stress or try hard, but you need to be present and notice. I see a good teacher!

where did you find an example of the Alexander Technique?

 

[hithere]

well, reading the whole thread has failed at this point due to DAYDREAMING. In the midst of the daydreaming I discovered a "trigger" and what I'm avoiding-- so now I'm sitting here weeping. LOL. Now the problem I'm avoiding, the pain of that problem that makes me weep, has no solution. It is a current problem that I can't solve and it touches the deepest parts of my CPTSD. Just when I think I'm healed of abandonment sickness I realize I have not healed from it and I never will. Somehow I have to accept it and not avoid it, and stop crying this bitter tears, join in on "life" and "live" -- I can't sit here avoiding the pain, and then once hitting it, I sit here weeping. I am also having an existential crisis at the same time .. I think the existential crisis causes me to daydream as there are no solutions to the existential crisis either. *If I should not be using this thread this way, please let me know and I will stop responding*

 

[DharmaGirl]

But now that you've recognized a trigger, you can work on making it a non trigger.

 

[ms spock]

It is a really difficult thing to deal with @Sophy. We wouldn't be maladaptively day dreaming if things weren't tough.

where did you find an example of the Alexander Technique?

I am not sure what you mean? Could you rephrase the question please?

Which grounding techniques do you use to try and get out of it?

Routines help - if you have things to do each day it stops you from being incapacitated by the maladaptive daydreaming.
This morning I went walking at 5.30am for an hour with a walking groups
Reading books
David Burns CBT - reading his book "Feeling Good" and disputing thoughts.
Woebot app
DBT - dbtselfhelp

 

[ms spock]

I also have trauma sensitive therapy @Sophy.

 

[ms spock]

This is still a significant issue, but I am gaining traction and gaining ground.

 

[ms spock]

I am back here again and it is really hard to drag myself out of it. I have it in such an encompassing way. I am challenging it though, more at times.

 

[ms spock]

This is a constant slog to get out of, and I have found reading really has helped me with that. This is a lifelong problem along with my disordered eating. I am doing so much better with it.

 

[ms spock]

I am really slipping into this in quite a deep way at times, but then I am coming out of it. I am starting to be more creative, and I wonder if the maladaptive day dreaming is my creativity gone underground and awry. It could be!

I am improving with this!

 

[Ronin]

Okay what about it makes it the most issue?

(Since not sure creativity in any capacity is bad, per se. Or something needing suppressing. Maybe not good for the time or event, but not bad as A Thing, either.)