Do you mention it when you are not x, what ever x may be

[Never_falter2]

So I talked about royality in the other thread and I am not royality but thought people might get me wrong. So I thought: “I should mention that I am not royality“ and I did nowI feel makes me look a) really silly and b) makes me look like royality, because who would ever feel like they want to tell people they are not royality unless they are royality in disguise.

Other things I mentioned so far when talking to others or on other boards: I never went to Havard, (but here is my opinion on Harvard nevertheless), I am not an expert on, (but...), my dh had lousy grades, this jewellery might look real but it is fake, I have no table manners.

Does it make sense to mention those things at all? After all nobody expects that the person he is talking too is royality, went to Harvard, is an expert on everything she talks about, has perfect table manners and so on. Is it silly to mention those things. Do you mention those things?

 

[Ronin]

Mentions are just mentions, I do not think much of them, usually.

And not quite silly or in a nobody land. I mean, I don't know who I am sitting next to, if we are strangers, there are so many ways people are connected, surprising, and those things like class, education, manners... mean a lot of different things to different people.

It may well be the resident monarch (in whatever sense, my thought went to head of the territory and patriarch / matriarch of the area as well as other nations' kings and queens) does not care about others' little ethiquette mistakes and table manners, but if they feel comfortable at the event.

Don't sweat the small things, and all. :)

 

[Friday]

It makes perfect sense, and doesn’t seem strange, at all.

 

[barefoot]

They just seem like casual throwaway comments to me. Lots of people do similarly. Nothing to worry about.

 

[EveHarrington]

It seems like you are putting yourself down.

Like, who cares if you didn’t go to Harvard? You act like Harvard is the end all and be all of intelligence and if someone didn’t go to Harvard then they are just as dumb as a box of rocks. Most of the intelligent people in the world didn’t go to Harvard.

Yes I’m reading between the lines here, but this seems to be a very self-deprecating behavior IMHO.

 

[TruthSeeker]

I have come to the conclusion, where I live and go to work, chit chat is just that, chit chat and whether the other guy cares what I'm talking about is different with different people....some people don't even listen or only hear half of what I'm saying.....when I'm chatting on or telling a story. So, in more recent years, I just try to make my statements authentic. and reflect the authentic me I want to project to others....so I don't end up having to worry whether I said something "right". Being authentic I think is important in conversation....I'll always remember to say the same thing the next time I'm chit chatting on the same subject if I just tell how X happened. Interesting thread.

 

[Fadeaway]

The way I see it is you are basically saying, "I have an opinion about topic x but I dont have first hand experiance." Or you are giving people a heads up about what to expect from you.

I think all of those examples had a good reason for saying them.

 

[Changing4Best]

I don't talk about some stuff, because my connection with it or to it is too close for comfort (yet very distant actually) and I don't want people thinking I am a part of it! Like, for instance, by some quirk of fate, I am some tiny bit Austrian royalty. Do I mention that here? (or anywhere, for that matter??) Never! (Forget I said anything about it!!!!) For this reason I never discuss royalty at all, because I don't want any part of it. I don't want folks thinking I have money or access to it (I don't, I am poor). So, you see how complicated this can all get really quickly, with all these side notes? That is why I try to avoid such topics all together.

 

[Never_falter2]

Wow, that‘s interesting. I‘d love to hear more about that, but I respect your privacy.

 

[TruthSeeker]

I don't talk about some stuff, because my connection with it or to it is too close for comfort (yet...

But that is your heritage.....and I'd die to know mine....as I was adopted...... it would give me a clearer self identity to know my heritage. Your heritage sounds quite interesting. When I was adopted, I "borrowed my adoptive family's heritage" and it helps to give me a sense of belonging in this world and something to talk about in those kinds of convos with people....but I always wonder what my heritage might have been like from the biological perspective....maybe I was related to some cool actor or queen or I came from Canada or some far away land. As it stands now, I am adopted into a family who came over on a ship...a group of early settlers...and they were clerks-they could read, so they had some standing in the community. If I knew, and it were cool, I'd be spouting it and chatting about it-well unless I knew the whole family were crazy schmucks and related to C. Manson...then I'd just take the one that sounds better! HAH lmao!

But your heritage sounds really cool....I could dig coming from royalty...sorry the money wasn't part of it....:meh:

 

[Never_falter2]

@Bkinder: Did You try on e of this gene Kits? I have heard that people found birth relatives with those... if they are registered there.

 

[TruthSeeker]

No I have never looked as the stories of BM in a mental hospital were enough to keep me from bothering and my x husband threw away all my information on my birth (and kept the box marked in black sharpie “adoption papers”) so I have no leads w a closed adoption. I’m older too- so birth mother would be in her 8Os pos. 90s- or dead.