Do You Need To Spill The Story To Process?

[Curious Moose]

Is it the only way? I actually think it can make you worse. Am I doing it wrong?
Is there another way to process trauma?

 

[mary1979]

I think that's a personal thing and depends where you are in your recovery as well.

For me there have been times where I've been prone to over sharing and times I am so sick of going over it I cant bare the thought of talking about it.

Unfortunately, if you're talking therapy, yeah you'll need to talk, a lot

 

[lostforgottensoul]

Am I doing it wrong?

I ask that constantly, theres no right or wrong, think of it like a million roads to one place, as long as you are moving foward and not back or standing still (or get unstuck eventually if stuck) then you're fine.

Is there another way to process trauma?

Yes, theres a million ways to process trauma. I edited that as i miss read it. It was my way, and its why i needed to do it as i did but not the only way.

I do think its better for a therapist to know at least part of what they are working with as they cant help what they dont know about and what some are equiped to treat, others arent but i dont think you need to spill your guts say here to process and at least my therapist didnt need the graphic details to know how to treat me, though i told him. He did need to know the base of it and a lot of the details for me to explain to me why i do and think the way i do and think.

So for therapusts i say yeah its part of the process but the sec i say that i bet someone is gonna reply and say they processed and healed without telling a soul lol.

I only know from my perspective though which is spilling every graphic detail to the world...but i fail to see only one way to do anything and the sec i start thinking that someone comes in and teaches me theres another way or many other ways.

I have a question though, why do you not want to? Maybe thats the issue that lies behind holding you back? Like if its, just say, shame, then shame is holding you back from healing...in my opinion anyway.

 

[Friday]

Good timing. I was just referencing this earlier today...

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There are a few other articles on therapy (on the home page search bar, which is different than the forums search bar, keyword search Therapy), which go into several of the different types of therapy used with PTSD. How they work, what to expect, etc. Very good reads, all of them.

 

[lostforgottensoul]

Thanks for referencing an article FJ! I love reading the articles and love the new ones that are up, they are quite helpful!

 

[Sideways]

The article refers to symptoms spiking from the therapy process...omg yes!

It gets worse before it gets better...but it does get better:)

 

[lostforgottensoul]

@Ragdoll Circus yes it does get worse before it gets better.

Im in the 'still getting worse' part.

Im playing this word game, semantics, with my admin friend. When you go in a plot of woods and pass half way you're actually going out. Basically its how far am i into the "plot of woods" and i said at first not even 3/4 of the way in and trees are way thicker, obviously he thinks im on my way out with thinner trees.

I played this with my therapist last session and i said "well if you want to get all semantic about it you can say that 2 steps in and you're on your way out, or going in the direction of 'out" and we both got a kick out of it.

My therapist agrees im on my way out, i dont know why but im feeling like closer to the center or "core" of it all once past that im on my way out.

Confusing, i know lol.

 

[Panda Bear]

Yes, and yes it will make matters worse before they get better.

It's a tough pill to swallow, but worth the pain it brings about.

 

[Curious Moose]

@Ragdoll Circus yes it does get worse before it gets better.

Im in the 'st...

To be honest sometimes I think talking about it makes it deeper trauma

 

[Rumors]

I think it is personal and some people can process without spilling the beans but I think as a whole anything that is shrouded with secrecy and shame needs to be brought into the light and discussed. It pretty much sucks though. That is not to say you have to divulge every intimate detail. I think that part is a personal choice. I think you just need to be prepared to feel worse before you feel better.
Good luck!!!

 

[lostforgottensoul]

Im only quoting cuz its not letting me tag, unsure if you can tag a guest?

To be honest sometimes I think talking about it makes it deeper trauma

Not sure if it makes it a deeper trauma, it does get worse before it gets better but talking about it, for me, is like plucking out a splinter, it hurts but leave it in and it gets infected, work througg the pain and it is out eventually and healing!

 

[joeylittle]

talking about it makes it deeper trauma

It can, if you aren't using any sort of purposeful structure or therapeutic technique while you are doing it.

Are you with a therapist?