Does Anyone Else Feel Bad About Themselves Social Media?

[J_trustno1]

I'll admit it here that I feel insecure on facebook for the reason:

1. I don't take photos in bikini or any photos at all to show off.
2. I'm not famous with 300+ people. I have less than 95 friends and only 2-3 close ones there and that's about it!
3. People getting married, going on vacations, having fun and whatever they call life but I don't.
4. It makes feel insecure about my life and myself. I wonder why do I need to share my privacy with other people. I feel pressured into believing social standards people have i.e. a great body, cool job, a spouse and all other materialistic things which I don't have. I feel like a loser based on facebook and world's view because my qualification never got me anywhere nor I have do any of the fancy stuff others do.

I've deactivated facebook because of above reason. Feel free to add your reasons. Thanks.

 

[Teasel]

H8 @Jass_T I know what you mean. I developed the habit of logging out of Facebook when I feel bad because I realised that I feel quite addicted to it and when I feel bad being on Facebook makes me feel much much worse! To be honest I don't care about looking good in a bikini, or anything else at all in a competitive sort of way. But seeing people I know really living life sometimes hurts a lot. Because I don't.

 

[J_trustno1]

@Berlinda: hi, i start feeling like loser who has nothing better to do than checking other people's lives. I felt I was wasting time and energy being on Facebook and putting myself down.

 

[Queen Boudica]

I never put pictures of me anywhere (can't stand pictures of me) and NEVER in a bikini, not that I can wear bikinis, but do put my kids on. And I only have a few friends, being the total social pariah I am . I really wouldn't want everyone I know to be on my facebook page anyway no-one has hundreds of friends. I did have a now ex friend (casualty of kicking my ex out) who seemed to revel in the no. of facebook friends she had and then did a long rant about someone de-friending her on facebook so everyone of her facebook friends could see. I think she just wanted loads of people to boast about how wonderful she was. In the end I defriended her because she supported my ex, they both used to flirt with each other anyway (he was one of those flattering her ego all the time) and I didn't want him being able to see anything I posted because he was friends with her. I'm sure she had another rant about that. I have about 16 friends on there, most are distant cousins and a few friends who are scattered across the World. Find it useful for keeping in contact with them because I would never phone them or write. But I don't post much personal stuff, maybe Christmas photos of kids, or funny antidotes about what they have said or done. More media items or useful info or jokes etc. All of my friends on there don't boast about lifestyles (except the one I defriended, who was jetsetting everywhere) they are all pretty down to earth. I don't like the keeping up with the Jones's people, maybe that is why I don't have many friends?

There is evidence that social media is causing a whole load of depression especially for teenagers because yes you can see all the social stuff people have and you being left out and worry about not having enough friends.

I am addicted to twitter at moment. I now have 93 followers some people on there again revelling in the 100's. of followers they have and trying to gain more, like it is a competition. I'd rather have a few people who are interesting and have common interests like DV, or mental health, than scout around so I can have hundreds of followers.

 

[Nikie]

Yes i do.. I bearly go on facbook.. I have a lot of Facebook friends. ( 2/3 family ). I only keep it to see there birthdays :roflmao:

I did use it back then.. A lot. Share interesting sites. But latley I think its waist of energy and yes definitely do the insecure thing ... I don't do pictures and I don't even where anything shorter than a skirt on my ankles or a denim as lang asposable close to my neck asposable I would look like nice puffy dough pealing over the edges of a bikini straps.. Yuck. .:wtf: But if you have a body show of the . ;)

So with wikitee coming up soon I can deleted my profile as well it only put you on a spot you don't want to be....
I think you made a very wise desison. Jass_T I might just follow your lead.:tup:.

 

[Cadillac]

Facebook is toxic. I have probably 76 friends and I do not communicate with any of them, the majority of them are family members and they are extremely critical of me so I do not post anything on facebook that I deem personal. Very early on I was trained that what I do or what I feel really doesn't matter to a bunch of other people.

I'm more liable to post on a tumblr about how I've been feeling and get support from strangers that take the time to read my posts..

 

[Myanxietyhasanxiety]

I deactivated my facebook account June 16, 2015.

I remember the exact day because I debated it for a very long time. I tried desperately to stay connected online but Facebook was a huge trigger for me, for a million reasons. I felt like I would be quitting and giving into the Fear.

Took me months to see it for what it was just ONE tool to connect with people. There is also the phone, house visits, emails, ect...

Disconnecting from Facebook was THE best decision I ever made.

Granted a miss a few things, like the easy access to seeing pics of the family, kids, friends. But I don't miss the Drama, the fakeness, the negative whiney posts....

Maybe I will connect again one day, but I gave myself permission to deactivate and heal. And I'm glad I did

 

[Born to Run]

People getting married, going on vacations, having fun and whatever they call life but I don't.

Yes this. I am hardly on any social media, but when I am I feel sick to the gut that for those folks life goes on and mine is on hold entirely for years now. Not because of what the world thinks of me, but because how frustrated I am. BTW I never understood FB in any case, as when you have a real friend why would you communicate with them using FB?

 

[WillyKat]

I think its common for those of us w/ PTSD to keep trying to fit in to a culture where we don't fit in. We grow up and develop patterns of making friends with just about anyone. But we can't. There comes a point (maybe its in middle age) where we realize that we must be very careful about who we want for friends. Before we reach that point, we agonize that we don't have as many friends as others seem to have, etc. But it doesn't need to be like that.

I don't think there's anything wrong with having only a few friends. It's ok to pick and choose how much we want to fit in with the sick, twisted culture that we are a part of.

I'm still on FB, but I scanned through all my friends and trimmed the list down to under 150. Most are acquaintances, people that I knew from high school, or worked with at some point. Others are family. There's only a small handful of people that I would really call friends, those that I feel comfortable sharing, for example, that I have PTSD. There's a list feature on FB that allows you to flag "friends" as acquaintances, family, or you can create your own. I have one called PTSD. When I post something, I check which lists I want my posts to be visible to. If I'm saying something about PTSD, I flag only that list. These folks are my most trusted friends.

Interesting note: I chose the number 150 for a reason. I read a fair amount of anthropology and learned that hunter-gatherer cultures average about 150 per community. Some are less; others more. Beyond 150, it gets harder and harder for people to get along well. Eventually, a group splits off; they vote with their feet.

 

[watundah]

I used to when it was a contest to see how mamy friends one could collect. I recently deleted 40 people and dont miss them at all. They weren't really friends and never esponded so POOF. All better! Only people I care about now

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I only have a handful of friends on FB and I use messenger to stay in touch. Some of them are family. I get a lot of friend requests, but I delete them because they are strangers I do not know at all. Preventative measures.

I look at it once a day and rarely post anything at all. It is all I can handle.

 

[shimmerz]

Social media is super toxic to me. People use it to bully and many other dysfunctional things. It is like opening the door of your house on a main street with a handwritten sign that says 'Come In - Stay As Long As You Like'. I have enough issues with boundaries without doing this crap.