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Thanks everyone for the responses. Some good advise and a return to therapy was pretty much what I figured. Sometimes it's good to just let it out, and this forum is a great place for that.
I figured it I could at least update everyone where we stand. Shortly after my first post, a doctor prescribed some meds to my wife. They made a world of difference. No more nasty mood swings, and I could talk freely about my sister and family without the conversation spiraling out of control. Things were great.
That is, until last night. My wife is heading on a trip to a destination wedding for a very good friend of hers. We can really only afford for one of us to go, so I am taking a trip to hang out with her in-laws and family on a long weekend. On one of these days, I plan to visit my sister who lives roughly 2 hours from the in-laws. This trip altered slightly before we left, and I was to see my sister for two of the four days instead of the original one. Initially it was no big deal, but late last night she erupted into full rage mode over me hiding the fact that the days visiting my sister changed from one to two. She said I was once again hiding things from her and being dishonest. I'm not really quite sure what where she is coming from, as I did tell her, but I guess it was only after I agreed to stay with my sister the extra day, maybe?
I am trying to understand, and it seems to me that my sister is a trigger. I was really at a loss last night over the whole episode. I mean, she isn't even going to be there, but I guess the idea of me spending time with my sister triggers the PTSD. Everyone is telling me therapy will be the best answer and I agree. I really don't know how to bring it up in conversation. She did therapy once, and I believe it really helped her, but now she has a negative connection with the idea of therapy. This mostly stems from her former employer and the fact she received her therapy from there.
Posting on here definitely helps as well. It's great to get support from other users who experience the same issues. Thanks to everyone for your help.
I figured it I could at least update everyone where we stand. Shortly after my first post, a doctor prescribed some meds to my wife. They made a world of difference. No more nasty mood swings, and I could talk freely about my sister and family without the conversation spiraling out of control. Things were great.
That is, until last night. My wife is heading on a trip to a destination wedding for a very good friend of hers. We can really only afford for one of us to go, so I am taking a trip to hang out with her in-laws and family on a long weekend. On one of these days, I plan to visit my sister who lives roughly 2 hours from the in-laws. This trip altered slightly before we left, and I was to see my sister for two of the four days instead of the original one. Initially it was no big deal, but late last night she erupted into full rage mode over me hiding the fact that the days visiting my sister changed from one to two. She said I was once again hiding things from her and being dishonest. I'm not really quite sure what where she is coming from, as I did tell her, but I guess it was only after I agreed to stay with my sister the extra day, maybe?
I am trying to understand, and it seems to me that my sister is a trigger. I was really at a loss last night over the whole episode. I mean, she isn't even going to be there, but I guess the idea of me spending time with my sister triggers the PTSD. Everyone is telling me therapy will be the best answer and I agree. I really don't know how to bring it up in conversation. She did therapy once, and I believe it really helped her, but now she has a negative connection with the idea of therapy. This mostly stems from her former employer and the fact she received her therapy from there.
Posting on here definitely helps as well. It's great to get support from other users who experience the same issues. Thanks to everyone for your help.
