General Does Your Ptsd Relationship Affect Your Job?

[ArtsyYogi]

For me...not a whole lot. I work for myself and have my own home based business so I have lots of flexibility when I work. We would text while I was working but that didn't really have any negative impact. Lately since he has been quiet...I find myself on these boards lurking around and reading more than I should (but it's lunch hour right now and I can sit here an post guilt free. LOL)

I'm not anywhere nearly as invested in our friendship as some of you are with your SOs...so PTSD hasn't worked its way into my business.

 

[Glucinum]

I'm lucky to have an understanding and flexible work place. I've not told anyone why I need some of this flexibility, but there are times when it really makes it difficult to perform at work. Having to be there, sitting up till wee hours talking and not getting enough sleep are killing productivity at times. Good thing I'm not hugely ambitious. I've reached a point in my career I can just keep going at this level. But I'm the primary salary earner and I am the only one with benefits, so my job is critical to our family. She does try and minimize disruptions to my work, but sometimes it can't be helped. I try and never show it's a problem because she does try, but the lack of sleep is the worst.

This kind of thing affects everything, and since our work is often a big part of our day, and most jobs have expectations about actually being there and doing actual work, it definitely affects us all.

 

[Milo's papa]

@ManagerWife I know how you feel. I've been through all of those things and a whole lot more. .my wife is totally disabled and I recently lost my job, (not the first time this has happened) because of things going on with her. The worst part is that it just makes matters worse. Sometimes I feel like there's just no way to get out of this cycle. Thank God for therapy, I'd be lost without it.

 

[Nox]

Gosh, I have to sat I feel better for having company here, in my partner's PTSD affecting my work too!

Taking carer's leave to look after him, or to look after myself: and when that runs out, using annual leave as sick/carer's leave. Exhaustion (either emotional or physical) meaning I am less productive and on the ball, and much, MUCH more easily distracted. And spending time on the internet researching, finding out more, what other people's experiences are etc. Definitely time crying.

Thankfully my boss now is pretty supportive, though she wasn't when she first started here. She started 3 weeks before the worse crisis PTSD crisis we've weathered so far kicked in, and I had to take 2 weeks off to provide 'home-hospital" care. Which was definitely preferable to him being hospitalized, but having work being rigid and uncaring made life much, much more difficult - nearly broke me. Such a massive difference now that my work is being reasonable and supportive!