Done

[Punky143]

Reached my done point. Done.

 

[joeylittle]

@Punky143 - do you need to go to an ER, or call 911? It sounds like you might need to. What do you mean by 'done'?

 

[SoSadGuilty]

Reached my done point. Done.

Punky can you let us know you are ok? I second @joeylittle do you need to call a helpline or someone who can support you at the moment?

 

[lostforgottensoul]

1-800-273-8255
https://www.thehopeline.com/

chat crisis: http://www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org/gethelp/lifelinechat.aspx

Text crisis: Link Removed

 

[Punky143]

Sorry, I am physically ok. I've reached my weekend limit, that being trying to communicate even the basics to those around me. In return I get shit on for it not being fair because my child asks for a,b,c while at the store then reminds me that whenever ago I might of said she could. Mind I tell you she's been told countless times she has her own $ and I'm the only one who has worked this summer since my husband lost(fired) from his job but her being 10 wouldn't understand the larger picture but I told her how much stress I'm under and I'm doing my best etc. That's a small piece of the aggravation. Then, doesn't matter what I say to my husband, he is so frigging insecure and refuses to do anything about it, need I say more. Just envision this: banging your head against the wall all day/weekend. That's me. Best part, I do this shit 5 days a week too. Fml

 

[SoSadGuilty]

Sorry, I am physically ok. I've reached my weekend limit, that being trying to communicate even the ba...

Glad you came back to clarify. :hug: I know how hard it can be to explain to kids that you haven't got the money for something and I know how tough it can be when jobs are an issue. I hope you are ok.

 

[lostforgottensoul]

@Punky143, something my mom did that I actually thank her for and has shaped as an adult was first, work for every dime I had. Even at young ages, I was never given an allowance (and personally dont get parents that do; but thats me); at young ages i, lets say, picked up all my toys for a nickle, and did other small house work for more. As i got older, my mom & step dad owned a dry cleaners so i sewed on buttons for a dime a piece, i pressed shirts for a bit more. But the point is, my mom never gave me any amount of money, i worked for every penny.

She would also bring me with her to shop for food and i had the amount we could spend and she'd advise me why and how much we had for each bill etc. Opening budgeting with me. And then if i wanted something not on the list i had to count how much we had vs how much we needed and see if we had enough. If so i could get it, if not i had to put it back.

She also showed me how she did the books for the business & house together as it was an in home business and she had to do taxes quaterly so her books were way more detailed than a normal house budget but i still do my own budget that way.

This all has to be age approprate but it shaped me into an extremely hard worker, I never ask for anything, i took & take very good care of my items as i worked hard for them, and i dont ever buy unnecessary items. It kept me from being homeless several times.

Kids need to understand money & budgets and that we cant spend what we dont have.

At age 10 i was doing all sorts of things around the house for money, i started my own business that wasnt selling lemonaid, i actually figured out about supply & demand at about age 10, just learned i was an artist (no lessons) and started to draw and paint portraits and selling them. Learned what people wanted and didnt want and what they would and wouldnt pay money for.

Also at age 10 i was already doing my own budget, and had a good amount of money saved.

Just a few years later it turned into abuse but i dont think that parents really teach their kids just how much all of their gagets really cost. I saw the price of a playstation and an xbox was at walmart and was wondering why in the hell parents spend that much on one for their for their kids, let alone multiple and I wonder how many kids realize just how much money their gaming consoles are (or any of their gagets).

Anyway, im sorry, dont mean to ramble. Just advising that id find some creative ways to teach your 10 yr old about money & budgets and what not. It stopped me for asking for what we couldnt afford.

There are many sites and great tips if you google "how to teach kids about money" but heres a great one: http://www.forbes.com/sites/laurash...oney-lessons-to-teach-your-kids/#53c8b734498c

I know its all frusrtating and you just want to throw your hands up. Im sorry you have so much pressure on you! :hug: