Doubting New Therapist

[Broken Dahlia]

Trusting your T is a tricky one. How long have you been seeing this T? Maybe I'm a bad example...

I've wondered this myself, can't figure out if it is the therapy I don't trust, or her. I've only been seeing her for a month and only have 20 sessions left for the year. I don't have time to build up a relationship. I saw my last therapist for about two years and I have been trying to use that relationship in my current therapy, trying to use the trust we built. I would love to do EMDR with her, but that isn't an option. She just never slipped up and accidentally said something awful, she was always reassuring. She never told me to just let it go, and she would have offered some guidance if she had. Maybe I was spoiled, but I want something like that again. This new one told me that I am looking for unconditional relationships, that it isn't realistic, and I should never trust anyone completely. But I do trust a couple of people completely, is that naive?
Okay, just realized what those two have in common- they are both "self-led" people. I think she is led by her parts, like me. Maybe I need to do IFS again.

 

[Broken Dahlia]

Follow up, I decided to quit working with this therapist. I am looking into Somatic Experiencing and already have the name of a therapist recommended by the women's center. Thanks for helping me figure this out!!

 

[Crow]

That's fantastic @Broken Dahlia !

 

[GardenGirl0214]

Best of luck with the new therapist.