LittleBigFoot
Policy Enforcement
What does it mean to you?
To me enthusiastic consent requires all parties involved to be sober and happy (granted angry sex can be great), have discussions prior to intercourse about limits and wants (safewords are awesome here even without it being bdsm), and everyone is of age and reasonably sane.
When it comes to the discussions I would expect that everyone is actively participating in a back and forth. Meaning it isn’t just one person dominating the conversation and the other person goes along with it. These discussions should ideally take place while clothed and maybe even somewhere public so that nothing sexual happens right away.
Obviously that’s a lot of work to go through and I’ve definitely done my fair share of one night stands where none of this protocol happened. But in a world where consent can be blurry, I think it’s a good idea to do stuff like this.
Make sure everyone is on the same page and excited to move forward and not just dragging. If a person is just dragging along and going with whatever you say and just being very unenthusiastic about it, it’s reasonable (to me) to assume that they just aren’t into it and you should back off.
I feel like this helps protect everyone, male or female. Obviously rape is still going to happen. False accusations are still going to happen. But for the rest of the time when everyone is just trying to safely navigate life? This would clear up those murky waters a bit.
How does everyone else see enthusiastic consent? Or just consent in general?
To me enthusiastic consent requires all parties involved to be sober and happy (granted angry sex can be great), have discussions prior to intercourse about limits and wants (safewords are awesome here even without it being bdsm), and everyone is of age and reasonably sane.
When it comes to the discussions I would expect that everyone is actively participating in a back and forth. Meaning it isn’t just one person dominating the conversation and the other person goes along with it. These discussions should ideally take place while clothed and maybe even somewhere public so that nothing sexual happens right away.
Obviously that’s a lot of work to go through and I’ve definitely done my fair share of one night stands where none of this protocol happened. But in a world where consent can be blurry, I think it’s a good idea to do stuff like this.
Make sure everyone is on the same page and excited to move forward and not just dragging. If a person is just dragging along and going with whatever you say and just being very unenthusiastic about it, it’s reasonable (to me) to assume that they just aren’t into it and you should back off.
I feel like this helps protect everyone, male or female. Obviously rape is still going to happen. False accusations are still going to happen. But for the rest of the time when everyone is just trying to safely navigate life? This would clear up those murky waters a bit.
How does everyone else see enthusiastic consent? Or just consent in general?