General Everybody so strict about table manners, unable to eat?

[blackemerald1]

Table manners are one of those issues like politics and religion. They will invoke lots of bizarre and diverse opinions.

This is his and your home. I imagine when you go out he manages to sit? So if he wants to stand whilst eating at home... no issue if that makes him more comfortable - why not? I mean I understand why you would think it's not ideal in lots of ways.

When I'm alone at home - I eat in front of the telly, sitting on the floor with my plate on a coffee table. :wtf: When I have visitors we eat at the dining room table. :sneaky: And I think ppl think I always eat at the table.. lol..

It's what he eats that matters the most. imo

 

[Never_falter2]

Hey... just a quick question. Probiotics have been mentioned on this thread. I used to think probiotics were supposed to help against diarrhea. Talking about the yoghurt, right?
Vet is actually trying to avoid “normal“ milk products because he thinks that makes it worse... but I also did some reading about milk and learned that kefir and yoghurt might be helpful for him?!?!?!?

I will be back later and write more.

 

[bellbird]

Probiotics should help his gut in general.
Stress causes massive changes in our gut microbiota; increasing bugs like E. coli (which naturally occurs there but is an issue when there become too many of them).
A probiotic will introduce some beneficial bacteria to hopefully return the microbiome to a more "normal" state.

Kefir is great. Same with probiotic yoghurt. Sauerkraut, too, but only raw sauerkraut will have probiotics. Most supermarket stuff is pasteurised.
The issue with probiotic supplements (pill form) is that a lot actually aren't that good, so they can be a huge waste of money. There are good ones out there but it can take a lot of reading around to find them. Things like delayed release capsules are important because otherwise the stomach acid can kill a lot of them off.

Probiotic foods are a great option because they're pretty reasonable and they dilute the stomach acid a bit at the same time so that the probiotics can actually make it to the gut. And they have lots of beneficial metabolites in them too! Goodies that the bugs have been making from the milk for instance in the case of kefir.

Does your Vet feel that milk is making his constipation worse? Kefir or yoghurt -may- have the same effect then, but as the bugs do alter some compounds in the milk, he may be ok.

 

[Never_falter2]

Yes, he thinks that milk makes that worse... and currently he is drinking almond milk and I cook milk free food even for the things which typically have milk like cake... but that is just because he was feeling so unwell... so he decided this and most likely he will try lactose free milk soon... his plan was to get rid of all milk until he feels better... and then think again and decide what he‘ll do.

 

[Tinyflame]

A lot of men (I've found) don't like yoghurt, but it could be the consistency, too. (It's a Godsend for me). I think even the fact it's cool is soothing on my guts, and technically a fluid (liquid at room temperature). It's an appetite stimulant for me. But I don't like plain or Greek yoghurt- too rich and thick for me. It's great on ice cream, too, or mix in a few nuts or seeds or fruit. :)

his plan was to get rid of all milk until he feels better... and then think again and decide what he‘ll do.

^^ Sounds like a good plan. I can tolerate about 1/2 cup milk/ day but unlimited quantities of yoghurt or ice cream.

 

[bellbird]

Hmm ok interesting. You can buy water kefir. I'm not sure how readily available it is, but it does exist and it's very delicious!

There's also something called kombucha which is a probiotic tea (no milk in it). They sell kombucha of many different flavours in the supermarket in NZ; I'd think they would have it in Germany too.

Otherwise, fermented vegetables eg. Sauerkraut would be a good option.

 

[Never_falter2]

Vet actually like yoghurts (the sweetened ones with fruit or chocolate) nearly as much as junk food but now is avoiding them. However we never buy the probiotic ones because they are so expensive... maybe we should start.
However right now he is avoiding yoghurts (because of milk). He wants to wait until he feels okay. He is trying to change his diet. Unfortunately not feeling okay right now at all... but he is feeling better...
Changing your diet is a bit difficult if you have trouble eating.

I‘ll ask him ifmaybe he wants to give lactose free yoghurt a try.

Oops, kombucha is probiotic stuff. I thought it was tea.

Gotta go. I will write later.

 

[EveHarrington]

I take the probiotic pearls. I didn’t realize how much they were helping me until I stopped taking them. I think mine has 1 billion cultures in it? Popping a tiny pearl once a day is a million times easier than eating a yogurt, drinking kefir, etc.

 

[Fadeaway]

Yes yes yes on the probiotics. Kifir is 99% lactose free for those who are lactose intolerant and crave dairy. I would still be cautious until he feels better.

Kombucha can be a tea but there are other forms as well. My husband has a lot of stomach issues and he gets ginger Kombucha which he claims does wonders for his gastric issues.

I was reminded just a bit ago that magnisum is what they give you before a colonoscopy to flush every thing out. It also helps with sleep. You can get magnesium powder and mix it in juice or get the pill form and just increase the dose until he finds the right amount to work for him.

How would he feel about going on a liquid diet for a few days?

Raw sauerkraut is super easy to make at home. It is so much cheaper that way and it takes less than 5 minutes. It does have to sit for a week or so though.

 

[Never_falter2]

Vet got much much better ? and he also ate a lot this evening. So maybe was a bit over the top to start this thread. I was so worried for him.

 

[Never_falter2]

Because people who have been overly criticized and have low self esteem from being abused just do. Culture also plays a role. It isn't uncommon for people to feel uncomfortable and embarrassed when they receive praise.

I do think that vet likes being praised. I think so because he gives you a smile or a nod or says “Thank you, darling“ if you praise him. Is there the possibility he hates it? I cannot rule it out but I think it is unlikely or he would say it, wouldn’t he?
I do not think he has always low self-esteem. Sometimes he does and sometimes he is snobby.

 

[Gs172003]

Vet got much much better ? and he also ate a lot this evening. So maybe was a bit over the top to start this thread. I was so worried for him.

I'm glad!!