Ex Boyfriend Had Sex After Our Break Up. Can I Be Mad?

[Uzap]

Thoughts? That this is one of the things I will never understand about women. You dump him, you don't have a right to his private or personal life anymore, and then are mad at him that he's evasive about his personal life, and that he's slept with anyone else.

 

[Iwo]

What I'm wondering is why has he pursued me so incessantly ever since them and make it seem like I was the only one he was interested in when that in fact wasn't the case?

These 2 things aren't mutually exclusive. Unless you said in the "willing to do anything" to be with you included not sleeping with anyone else during this time period was a condition of that.

I get, that if it's not natural for you to have casual sex, or sex as a sport, that it might not occur to you to make that a condition... But for those of us who are wired that way? It would need to be spelled out. Not dating anyone seriously? Pretty obvious. Not seeing anyone casually? Not obvious at all. Especially not if this wasn't part of his "I just got dumped" rebound thing before even deciding to seriously pursue you, or in response to being hurt at multiple rejections in trying get back with you.

 

[Sujal]

Who he shags and when is up to him and them - not up to you.

whether you hang around now that you know?

that one is up to you to decide

 

[Aceto]

I'm in precisely the same position.

My wife ended our relationship and I moved out and we are selling the house.

She wants me to check in once a week once the house sells and we don't have physical contact any more, for coffee.

Do you understand how angry that would make a man feel?

I have been in therapy and it's really helped coping with our break-up and I feel better about myself and my future prospects, and I'm really looking at whether I want back after 3 months of no marriage.

We are getting along better now than we have in a long time, but as a strategy to make me a better husband?

f*ck her.

Endless nights of tears and anguish alone with any real concrete hope of a reconciliation?

I don't look to other women because I'm heart sick and know I have little to offer another right now, otherwise I probably would already.

I'm telling you this because he genuinely loves you and wants a solution. Do it together, or let him go by ending it. Otherwise you are torturing him and setting yourself up for a potential retaliation from him.

I'm telling you this because love and hate share the same intensity.

I genuinely wish you well.

 

[Sawir]

These 2 things aren't mutually exclusive. Unless you said in the "willing to do anything" to be with you included not slee...

And own the fact that you decided to end the relationship.

 

[Vivob]

@owiv

If i was you, he would be "dead to me".
I would never speak to him again.....period.

May you find peace.