Facebook- Finally Free From It

[CraftyCath]

I am very selective about who I allow on my FB page.

I have 'unfriended' 2 people recently. One was the daughter of an x-friend who was posting some disgusting stuff and who's mother, my x-friend, was accessing her account. The other was someone who wanted to be friends with me but then never did so I deleted her.

The other people are all family and close friends, most of whom live to far away to visit so it is good to stay in touch with them.

Sometimes something is posted (like 2 of my friends meeting up and not inviting me which happens all the time) and I feel bad about it. I have to take the bad things about FB with the good, though I do have to keep my paranoia in check as that sometimes runs away with me.

 

[nursenurse]

I'm dating myself here, but I remember the days when all of my friends took off to the four corners of the world just after university. I was busy raising a child on my own. I was lucky to get a letter, snail mail style, once every 6 months. I'll take FB and email any day. Even though I am isolated in my work, I am not disconnected.

 

[Tanishq]

"hey look how many friends I have on Facebook!". It's like a quote thing.

:laugh: Britt, Not sure you were being funny here or not and they talk to none of them right? Hilarious and mindless thought. They must be feeling that they need to show how impressive they have been through out the life. lol.

I like hearing how people are and what they are doing, for the most part.

Me,too. I want to be serious at serious matters, fun while fun and learning while learning.

 

[Tanishq]

No one says you have to accept every request.

I learned this and I wanted to say no to them. But thought it could be something good, but came out that they are not interested to talk with me.

So I guess you never know who will become important to you, even through FB.

Yes, opportunities are everywhere. Thanks nursenurse for sharing this. You seem to be good at personal boundary and your privacy. :tup:

One was the daughter of an x-friend who was posting some disgusting stuff and who's mother, my x-friend, was accessing her account.

Hey CraftyCath, :eek: How scary!!!

 

[CraftyCath]

I don't get the 'Look how many friends I have on FB@ thing either.

I mean, why accept a friends request from someone you don't even know just so you look like you have loads of friends? I know people who have a couple of hundred 'friends' where as I only have 20 or is it 30 ish and I'm OK with that. I'm not that insecure and I have nothing to prove.

I think it is very sad.

 

[Britt.f7]

I do have to keep my paranoia in check as that sometimes runs away with me.

Me too Crafty Cath. If I see my sister's talking about loving each other or missing each other, or about any of them getting together I have to remind myself to not think it has anything negative to do with me.

Yes, Jaret, it was tongue in cheek. One time I friended someone that I thought was my Uncle's wife(long story). To this day I don't know who she is, but she never posted on my site so that is good!

 

[Tanishq]

Britt, Your sense of humor is great. :)

CraftyCath, When I started Facebook I had 40ish people and I knew them all. But then started going through personal development and personality forums. There I gained some more friends and I made a mistake,too. I went into bad FB group. it took me to 100ish. Now I have removed at least 30 people who were negative and believed in bashing. I think I am good with 40 people whom I know. My capacity is only 10-20 people actually. I get overwhelmed with love. They all live in other countries so I have kept account there.

 

[CraftyCath]

I have to remind myself to not think it has anything negative to do with me.

That is exactly it Britt. Gosh it runs away with me sometimes and I feel hurt. I don't want those horrid rejection feelings and have to remind myself that it is me who is feeling paranoid and not necessarily anything done to deliberately hurt me.

 

[CraftyCath]

Well done Jaret, I think you did the right thing.:tup:

 

[Tanishq]

Thank you CraftyCath. :)

 

[nursenurse]

I had a FB stalker once, was someone I knew years ago. It was really creepy, we had friended each other, but then he became involved in too much of my stuff, things he would have to go searching for to like that never involved him. So, I blocked him at first without unfriending, it didn't stop, so, gone. No love lost.

 

[CraftyCath]

Nursenurse....:eek: How horrible for you, glad you got rid of him.