Relationship Family's Lack Of Understanding Of Ptsd

[Monkey01]

My husband has been suffering from PTSD for the last few years and despite reaching for help a couple of years ago he now believes he is cured despite complete self destructive behaviour which has unfortunately ended up in the break up of our marriage. He has and continues to have affairs with people despite saying he doesn't want anything long term with them and has now decided he wants to end our marriage. Of course his behaviour is completely inappropriate and my family and friends cannot believe how heartless he is acting. Of course I know this is in line with his PTSD behaviour but my family are being very unsupportive and getting angrier about the way he is acting. I want to deal with the situation the way I know it needs to be dealt with but feel like under pressure from their opinions. I feel this is even more important as we have a daughter. Has anyone else struggled with this?

 

[Friday]

I'd be pissed as hell at his behavior right along with your friends & family.

...but my family are being very unsupportive and getting angrier about the way he is acting. I want to deal with the situation the way I know it needs to be dealt with.

I'm really curious however, what you mean by these 2 statements?

- What does supportive vs unsupportive look like and/or mean to you....
- How do you believe the situation needs to be dealt with?

 

[Amanda_j]

I'd be pissed as hell at his behavior

Absolutely!

I'm curious along with @FridayJones.

You're no longer together? He ended your marriage? He is a grown man and is choosing to sleep with various women and has stated he doesn't want a relationship? I know it's always more complicated when children are involved. But perhaps now is the time for you to focus on yourself and your daughter. He has had multiple affairs, I'm so sorry that you're going through this. I know my family wouldn't be supportive either, and quite honestly, nor would I.

 

[watundah]

Yup. No longer your problem. Go and enjoy your one life.

 

[Neverthesame]

PTSD is not an excuse to be a scumbag.

I'd be pissed as hell at his behavior right along with your friends & family.

Yup, yup, yup.

Whatever is wrong in his head, is not your headache.

How someone can treat their wife in this way is... Just horrible.
It's just so sad.

 

[Sweetpea76]

PTSD does not cause uncontrollable fornication. He still ultimately makes the decision to cheat.