Undiagnosed Father Killed In Freak Accident

[AMA]

Hi,

I am very new at this sort of forum thing, but I figure it is worth a shot. This last summer, I was camping with my father when he was killed in a freak water-skiing accident. Like my father (who also lost his father at the age of 19), I tried to return to college. However, my depression, anxiety and guilt has made it nearly impossible to feel there is anything left of me.

I signed up for this so that maybe I could find someone like me. I would love to talk to anyone who has something to share or would like me to share something with them.

-AMA

 

[missing_the _sunshine]

Welcome to the forum.

Sorry for your terrible loss. Hoping that you will find some support here.

 

[AngelaMarie]

I am very sorry for your loss. I hope you will feel comfortable here and it will help you through your hard time. Losing your father is very hard. I understand.

I wish you the best.

 

[Ron]

I can't imagine your loss and your sadness. I am so sorry. Can you please tell me what happened?

 

[AMA]

Thank you for the warm welcome everyone! :)

Ron - Every summer, my family and some friends have gone to the same lake. A family-friend we had been camping with had been suffering from alcoholism in the past several years. Although I had been driving the family boat while my father skied behind, this friend decided to drive this one day. I asked him if he was okay to drive and will forever wish that I had just told him I was going to drive. I assumed that if my father trusted him, that I could trust him, too. As my dad grew tired of skiing, he let go of the rope to glide into the water and the driver began to turn the boat (and was not looking in the direction of my father). Upon realizing why my family was suddenly yelling at him, he made a sharp turn and floored the throttle, which swung the engine and propeller into my father. My sister and I jumped into the water immediately. I could not swim any further because I froze upon realizing he would not respond when I yelled out for him. My sister swam to him and held him above water. He went unconscious in her arms. He was pulled onto the back of another family-friend's boat, where she performed CPR on him until EMT's reached him and pronounced him deceased.

 

[Ron]

That's traumatic in every sense. And how do you make sense of it? It's a tragic accident. And when alcohal is involved there's so much room for misfortune, pain and even death. Oh God don't punish yourself. You couldn't control it. Heinsight is 20/20. You have to grieve for your Dad and feel and express your grief and loss. ((( HUG )))

 

[Deleted member 1860]

Welcome to the forum. I am so sorry for your loss...

 

[Stacey85]

Welcome to the forum. I'm really sorry for your loss, and all you are going through as a result.