Fear Response And Being Touched.

[Ursa]

i need someone to teach me to physically stop someone from touching me if i dont want them to.

Maybe first trying to say "no". And if you do and they still touch you than maybe a self defense training would help you to learn what you want.

 

[supergirl]

Thing is i cant work on any of the issues i have with touching as im not in a relationship with anyone...

You can work on this subject without being in a relationship. Some of my biggests fears/triggers were resolved when no event was involved. Example --- I had major issues with boundries due to the way I was touched as a child. I was not involved with anyone when this issue was dealt with and resolved.
I encourage you to talk to your therapist about it. You can learn the boundries you need to keep you safe now while not in a realtionship...

 

[missys_girl]

I'm going to bring it up next time I see my therapist, though Ii don't see her for another month.

My old therapist was ready to send me off into the big wide world and declare me fine and cured, even though I still get nightmares, still have some major problems, just because it's been 3 years. I think she thought it's been long enough, she had an offer for another job and left, and thought I should go it alone. Soo I tried for a few weeks and the nightmares were coming back so I rang up and organised to see the new therapist. She hasn't had a problem still seeing me and has been working from fresh angles. At first I thought she was weird, but now I see these are things I DO need to work on.

I'll see what she suggests.