Sufferer Feeling Alone And Lonely Caused Me To Sign Up

[darwin]

hello,

after two really close years of amazing support from my girlfriend, she changed overnight and abandoned me, without any closure, wouldn't even talk to me about it, im hurt and struggling

she knows intimatley my ptsd, yet she chose this painful way of ending it

ive made good progress overall on the road to recovery, i am currently just ok as far as physical stamina, but still have a low tolerance for stress, and i am easily agitated and angry

because of ptsd i dont feel i can meet anyone new, i dont bring anything to the table for a relationship, i am financially ruined and broke, is there no hope, do i have to go throug this alone now?

on a lighter note, i am a lover of science and nature (i am sure nature is a common theme here), i plan to start my own urban garden soon, i love the ocean, beach towns, and my best place to be to help me cope is at the gym overcoming gravity haha

i hope to feel less alone here and find out if there is any hope that i dont have to be alone

 

[darwin]

i would also like to find out if full recovery is possible, or is this a life sentence?

 

[Stickler]

You will have it to deal with, but can get way better.
You can come back from this.
Hiya. See you around here :happy:

 

[Friday]

Welcome to the forums :)

PTSD is life long, but symptoms change a lot. For a decade I was so much better as to say I *had* (past tense) a perky little case of PTSD back when. LeSigh. If only. Didn't know any better, though. PTSD is cyclic. New traumas, heavy duty stressors, losing coping mechanisms... These are things can bring back symptoms. Not a lot of fun (where I'm at now). But by and large, the entire point is to recover enough as to be undiagnosable. :) For me that meant maybe a couple nightmares a year, a brief run of insomnia once a year, and the occasional bout of anxiety a few times a year. Snort. Essentially a bad day, spaced over 12 months. Looking forward to getting back to that being situation normal!

 

[Deleted member 29961]

or is this a life sentence?

Welcome to the site. For some it can be a life sentence, while others seem to recover. For me personally, it has been a roller coaster ride.

 

[Changing4Best]

I'm about a dozen years down the road of recovery. I do get anxiety still sometimes, but it is not nearly as bad as it once was. So there is hope at least for a partial recovery. Meds help me with the anxiety too, so it is often not present in my life at all.

 

[Fadeaway]

Welcome.You are in good company here.

 

[darwin]

thank you all for the replies, im looking forward to having somebody to bounce my thoughts off of and vice versa

what about relationships, there is no hope is there? i mean, how can a person with ptsd meet anybody, especially when broke and jobless? i used to be just fine beimg alone, prefered it even, but now the thought of fighting this aline just seems overwhelming

 

[darwin]

Welcome to the forums :)

PTSD is life long, but symptoms change a lot. For a decade I was so much b...

Thank you Friday! Best wishes getting back to that upswing state of being.

 

[darwin]

Thank you Stickler, Fadeaway, SheilaKathy, and Jigsaw.

Jigsaw, so far it has been a roller coaster for me too, guess I'll hold on for the upswings (i'm actually kind of in one now thankfully)

 

[intothelight]

@darwin Welcome to the forum!

One of the best things about this forum is being among people who really understand and that does make dealing with PTSD a less lonely. Having PTSD doesn't mean that relationships aren't possible, but focus on your own healing as a relationship will be as healthy as the two people that are in it.

 

[Truthful_Whispers]

You joined for similar reasons that I did. I know all too well what it is like to be abandoned. It hurts even more when you sacrificed so much for the other person during the time you were together, only for them to turn around and spit in your face. I have been alone for a little over a year. I tried some dating, but that was a disaster. I am a solitary type of person, but the loneliness does get to me sometimes. The only place I seem to fit in a little, is among people of my own "kind". Meaning, people with MI's. Even then, I can be an oddball, of sorts. My humor is not always politically correct, and I can be a little manic at times, or practically suicidal other times. I spend most of my time alone, taking care of my rescue pets. My mother lives in this area, so I see her every now and then. That's about it for me. Not a big fan of "normal" society, or most of my own species for that matter, for good reason.