feeling just not good enough

[yellow rose]

Just been feeling tonight really sad been crying because of my life and also because I just feel like nobody can really be bothered with me. I feel that I am not worthy of people bothering with me and that I am not meant to have people.. friends who really care and will stay. I know that sometimes thoughts are wrong and its probably just because I am feeling depressed. But just sometimes I feel that I am just not important enough to many people. And that there is something just wrong with me as a person , because I never feel wanted enough

 

[EveHarrington]

:hug:

I think it’s not unusual to struggle with these kinds of feelings...I know I oftentimes don’t feel like I am enough, either.

Is there any kind of self care you can engage in tonight that might help take your mind off things, even if just for a little while? Maybe watch a favorite movie, eat some comforting food, curl up with a good book?

 

[Lionheart]

When I was young, I was taught that I was unlovable. I later discovered that was a lie the perpetrators told me to keep me under their control. It took a long time before I finally believed I was good enough, but it really is a thought and not a feeling...

Consider that thinking you're not good enough is just "stinking thinking", probably from depression as you mentioned...

...and if it is a thought, then a thought can be changed. I hope you don't think or feel you are not enough any longer. You are just as important, lovable, and precious as anyone else.

I wish you the best on your healing journey and hope what I 've said is helpful to you.

Peace,
Lionheart777

 

[yellow rose]

Hello. I am sorry to hear that. I too felt unloved as a child although I do know my mother loves me now. But I never felt loveable never felt important enough never felt noticed enough. And then as a adult I have been through stuff that has been extremely horrible and upsetting for me.. abuse related things
yeah i think it is because I am depressed
I was crying earlier and sitting here nearly cryin now because i feel so lost and lonely and confused about the way that I am and everything. I dont understand how things are like this
thanks very much for your kind words
guess its just sometimes I feel that I not important enough to people
as a example I sometimes try to make friends online and smetimes I just feel they will stop bothering with me or that they dont want to take time for me
I feel it makes me very sad that I dont really have many friends
thankyou

 

[Lionheart]

I was crying earlier and sitting here nearly cryin now because i feel so lost and lonely and confused about the way that I am and everything. thanks very much for your kind words

You are absolutely welcome, I really meant what I said, you are important and deserve to have people in your life who love and care for you. Just because we may have been unloved doesn't mean we have to always feel that way as adults. We deserve love and happiness.

I am sorry for your pain and your tears, it takes time to get over past abuse trauma and it is often painful, but your tears will eventually dry up and you will begin to see that you are lovable.

Again, I am sorry for your pain and confusion... Perhaps you just haven't met any good healthy people to have as your friends. I don't have very many friend either, but the ones I do have are the best ( many of them I met here on the forums).

wishing you all the best, and I am sending you gentle hugs if you accept,
Lionheart

 

[yellow rose]

Thats nice that you have friends on here
yeah I am in pain
been crying again this morning feel I lost everything and feel I cant get to the things others have
thanks very much for your kindness by the way

 

[PreciousChild]

Hi @yellow rose. If you read through the other posts, you'll find many people who feel the way you do around here. I think it helps to realize that there are other people who go through the same things, and that it is more about a pattern rather than about a genuine flaw in you. I have gotten to the point that I can question that there is something truly wrong with me and actually believe it. Good luck with your healing process.