Feeling Safe: Learning It

[Freedomfighter]

Yes. It is possible, even if it is hard.

For me, other things had to come first. I had to...

So true, have to work very much on reminding myself that those are just memories. The pain and fear that I feel when I have to relive these memories is very tough to handle.

I will have to research on grounding methods next, I love the EMDR. Even though it causes anxiety at times it will eventually help me to digest those memories.
Wish that all the people that are trying to hurt me could just disappear.

 

[Little_Big]

After reading Friday's response, I am thinking about what I mean when I say "feeling safe,"...

Yes, I totally resonate with this! Retraining my limbic system not to be continually on red alert

 

[Little_Big]

Thank you all for your thoughts, really helpful and so good to know I'm not alone and to have a community with a shared language for our unique experiences.

 

[AslinSparx]

@Little_Big I too have had difficulty in learning how to fully BE in my own body. What I have found extremely helpful is participating in some form of bodywork. While it is also helpful to see a T and engage in talk therapy to gain cognitive understanding of your situation/trauma, I believe it is also helpful to MOVE your body, uninhibited. Have a look at 5Rhythms... when I first did a class, I was blown away. Euphoric and fully present! I know there are classes offered in the UK because I've had a look for you. It may seem a little nerve wrecking dancing in a room full of strangers, but just to ease your possible anxieties/apprehension, there is NO talking, NO drinking, NO judgement, just movement and pure acceptance of where you're at in the moment. It is a very, very safely held space that allows for freedom of expression. I usually rock up, dance, have a laugh or cry, hug myself, smile to myself, but most importantly, I move my body without thinking or preempting my next move which takes me out of the cerebral and brings me back into my body and I can feel the foundation under my feet. That lack of foundation you speak of...it's there, you just need to feel it and embrace it. It's part of you.