Relationship Fiance ending relationship

[Nic2001]

I am with someone with CPTSD for three years, living together and engaged for the last year. Planning a wedding date seemed to really trigger him. Things have been bad since then. We've cancelled the wedding, I try to get him to therapy but he goes and then walks out when he doesn't hear what he wants to. The other day he told me he can't trust himself and that he needs help but wouldn't let me try to get to any resources. He's become paranoid with me, at his job. Then yesterday he said I failed him for not helping him so I called the crisis center and they came with cops and he convinced them he was fine and that it was all a ruse because he broke up with me the night before (again). They left. He said he was just testing me the other day to see if I cared about him. I love him so much, he really is such a a good man. But he needs help and he won't go get it and I am not sure I can do this anymore but I feel like I'm giving up on him.

 

[nursenurse]

Testing you? Not getting help? By your own words, not hearing what he wants to hear. Big, big red flags, PTSD or not. This is not what a good relationship looks like. You are not giving up. You are looking after yourself. You are important. He is gas lighting you. Re read what you wrote. And exit stage left.