General Fiance Has Severe PTSD

[pjdavis]

Hello:
My name is Trouble, and I am engaged to a man with extreme PTSD. After trours in Afghanistan, Iraq, Kosovo, West Africa, and Haiti, he has seen it all!. He is combat infantry and almost always "goes in first". We have been the VA route, psych hospitalization, alcohol rehab, etc. Recently, he quite taking the Paxil and Respiradone (sleep med) prescribed to him because of interference with his sex drive and the fact that the sleeping pills still cannot get him to sleep.

We had a huge argument 2 days ago, and he has been PTSDing sine then. When I say "PTSD", I'm talking about behavior most people have never seen. Extreme paranoia, hypervigilance, hallucinations, delusions, erratic/overexaggerated movements, clawing at his skin, cold sweats...the list continues forever.

We haven't slept in two nights, and I don't see an end in site. He needs to go to the hospital but won't do it. He is dishonest about his symptoms with the VA doctors due to his fear of being locked up. His self-medication with alcohol takes every extra penny he has and, when I can't prevent him from doing so, every last penny of mine.

Help?

 

[amethist]

Hi pjdavis

This is not good for you or him.

Is there any way you could tell the doctors yourself how bad he is.

I know this seems very devious but it's what i would do myself and my husband know it because i told him the last time he would not listen to reason

This next bit is extreme but is there any way you could actually sign him into hospital yourself for his and your own safety. I know it can be done here in the uk.

Look after youself and keep strong it's tough, try and get help for him some how.

Amethist

 

[pebbels]

Hello pjdavis:hello:this situation is not good for him or you, he is not looking after himself as well as he could be.

To heal, one needs to be honest and yet understand his fears. The only thing i can suggest is if your fiance is willing to have you along with him on visits to va then go with him and tell them yourself what is happening.

What i dont understand is how does he get every last penny of yours with out your knowledge unless you are giving it to him. Alcohol would not mix too well with what is happening with him and it is not going to take away his problems, they are still going to be there. He needs HELP, all the best in encouraging him to get it and with honesty. Don't for get to take care of YOU:Hug_emoticon: