Fiance Left Me, Doesnt Understand

[KyGirl31]

I couldn't have said that better myself Nurse Nurse! You give such great insight! There is someone out there who will love you and your dogs to and be glad to have you both!

 

[aka]

our dogs...my service/therapy dogs. Which we raised together. "Me or the dogs", she said."I want to be number one".....holy crap!

Sounds like she is jealous of the dogs relationship with you.Though I am not sure why since they are your service dogs. I will tell you that if I was given the option between by dogs and other person I would choose the dogs. Since that person doesn't seem to understand that my dogs support me in ways people can't. That they are important to my overall health and well being.

 

[Bilby]

I'm a supporter of someone with PTSD and I hope you don't mind me replying to your post.

I'm really sorry to hear about what you're going through, and I have to say that as a supporter, I could personally never imagine expecting my sufferer to give up such an important, and essential lifeline. No, my sufferer doesn't have a service dog, but that's not the point. The point is that you have an illness to which your dog is a very important form of assistance and to try and deny you that is cruel and potentially setting you up for a big fall.

It would be a rough call for someone in a non-PTSD relationship to ask their partner to give up their pet, but in this situation? I truly don't get why you would do that to someone.

I hope that you find a way through this - and don't give up your pooch!!

 

[billypurp]

My emotions are changing..at first I was confused and hurt. Now I'm just plain pissed! At night time I take Klonapin and prazosin to take the edge off and to reduce nightmares...isn't working anymore.awoken from a dream, I searched my entire property with Bailey (my German Shepard) to find those who are Trying to hurt me.

My exFIANCE changed her number and moved away to where I don't know and kept my ring, which I'm still paying for to the tune of $6300.. last time we spoke "you're sick" , you "f***king psychopath." I'm not the beat down a door violent type at all. I'm a big sissy! I think my heart has had it fill of this.

Thank you all!

 

[nursenurse]

Well, I don't like what she said. Glad you are moving on. As I said before, it isn't the dog, and it isn't really you. It's her.

 

[KyGirl31]

Oh wow I'm so sorry. Then to keep the ring? That's just so low. See it's women like that who are gonna make it harder for you to trust again. I promise you not all women are complete nut jobs! I'm almost 100% positive you can take her to court and get that ring back. It was given with intent of marriage. I'm not sure you wanna take that approach but it's an idea considering you paid so much for it.

 

[nursenurse]

You know, I think the lawyer will cost more than the ring, although maybe you have a small claims court thing there that could work. I would let it be. Doesn't matter who's right. It is just stuff. It's on her conscience, what goes around comes around. Living well is the best revenge. Get out there and live life, chalk it up to experience. She's the loser, IMHO. That ring will never make up for what she's lost, and for you, it's a cheap good bye.

 

[shoulderblades]

It sounds to me like her dishing out such an ultimatum was just the beginning of more abusive things to come. If she can give such an ultimatum without bothering to see things from your point of view... that's very alarming. What else would she end up demanding of you if you had decided to give up the dogs for her? Maybe it's a blessing in disguise that she left.

 

[rockyspine]

I'm sorry about this, what a horrible thing for her to do. I do agree with the point that she probably does not understand the real depth of how you need the dogs and about PTSD itself, as someone who doesn't have it really can't fully understand. My boyfriend really struggles to understand, but he doesn't really. And sometimes he says the complete wrong thing when I know he is trying to be supportive, but it just doesn't work. So, it's hard for our partners to know.

But regardless of that, that is NO reason for her to give an ultimatum like that or be such a downright terrible person to you! As MissAntiSunshine said, even if they were just regular pets and all that, I would think it would be a terrible thing to do, not even taking into account the help these dogs provide you and your condition.

My cat doesn't get along with my boyfriend but if he ever said, "Me or the cat", well I'd take the cat! :) I mean I love my boyfriend to death and all but, you just DON'T say an ultimatum that to someone you love, regardless of the situation. And in this situation with her knowing what the dogs are to you and what their role is, I think it's especially worse.

Also sorry to hear about the ring - that is a complete terrible move on her part. No class at all. That is your property and without a marriage, it rightfully belongs to you. I hope you get it back.

Anyway, it really sucks when our trust is broken like this but not every girl is like this. There's lots of good ones out there.