Relationship Finally Heard From Him And Its Scaring Me

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@Glara Having followed you history with this man for quite sometime, I have to ask, WHY THE HELL ARE YOU DOING THIS TO YOURSELF? Again! He is not your responsibility. You are just going to get yourself all twisted over someone who doesn't give a second thought about how it affects you.

No! NO! No! I can't tell you what to do, but I have seen what this shit has done to you before. You deserve better. As far as I am concerned this man is a sociopath NOT a PTSD suffer who manipulates the f*ck out of you.I just want to scream WARNING WARNING! DANGER.

For others reading this, my conclusion comes of 2 years with of backstory into this relationship and seeing what this man has put this woman through that goes way above and beyond PTSD. He isn't an isolater (which was assumed for a very long time), he he someone who likes having someone on the sidelines waiting for him.

 

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I that came off more insensitive towards you than I meant to, I am just really really pissed off at him for hurting you like he has in the past.

 

[Glara]

@Fadeaway its fine I understand what you're saying and why you're saying it. You have to remember we started off that way. I was 20 and we lived 3 hours apart. I initiated the whole thing back then. I'd say it was more like friends with benefits because we talked in the phone and even wrote letters. But I was free and dating. I had relationships in between.

What happened this time around was it went too fast. We had reconnected years back and were both married. With those relationships ending we rushed in. He did most of the rushing. Talking about moving there and having a babies etc etc. I wanted to go slow at first, but got totally caught up in it. I've reread the texts from then.

I believe he really had ptsd. I even saw signs of it back when we were young. Him sitting in a room in what seemed like a transe after inviting me to hang out with he and his friends. Popping in and out of my life. And more recently, before we started up again but after we were friends on Facebook, I remember the things he would post. Just short of saying how depressed he is. Disappearing off Facebook then

 

[Glara]

Sorry that cut off,

I was saying disappearing and reappearing well before we started up again.

I've had a lot of time and distance that gives me a lot more perspective. I admit I still love him dearly and I probably always will. I know we will never have the kind of relationship he talked about. I've moved on here at home.

I've never had good, healthy relationships. I've had to learn how to take of myself. I can completely support myself financially, I have Aflac if I get sick and I have a good job with a pension and s second retirement fund. I have a very low mortgage. I've had very little help from my family but have managed my life on my own.

I've learned not to depend on anyone financially or emotionally. So I won't. He confides in me, not the other way around. I won't get hurt again because if he or anyone should talk that way again I won't believe it.

 

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Ok, I believe you. You know him better than any of us, I just worry ya know.