Fired.

[anonymous]

So long story short, I'm pretty sure I will be fired by the end of the week. I took an amazing freelance opportunity that allowed me to travel and work for two weeks instead of attending a board meeting and it's being held against me.

I was also called a liar by my boss (this came out in conversation about some other related things) and it's now my word against his. Given that he's my superior, I won't win this game.

Now I'm terrified about getting fired and never getting rehired by anyone else due to the bad recommendation.

Does anyone have any stories to share where getting fired led to good things? New opportunities? Better job? I'd rather not turn this into a "bosses suck" thread, because I already know that sometimes they do! But any stories of positive outcomes in this situation would be extremely welcome and help me hold my head high for the next few days as they decide whether to keep me or get rid of me.

 

[risingsun]

it's now my word against his

Its a shame that bosses who are bullies manage to discredit. I wasn't fired technically, but my boss through her behavior (and others) practically pushed me out of my workplace.

But now, it gave me time to work on my PhD which is almost finished and I know that when one door closes, many open. I do believe that there are always good and better things around the corner. And that things happen for a reason which we don't always see. Fear not. If this does happen, your resume can speak for itself and there are always other people you can put on it for "references." I'm sorry this has happened to you, but hang in there, keep your head up and know your truth. Rising Sun

 

[SpikeBall]

Yes, I was fired in a foriegn country and thought it was the end of the world. I didn't own any of my furniture and watched my boss haul it away. I didn't think I could keep my apartment, but I desperately wanted to, and going home was not an option. All the recruiters told me it'd be impossible to get a government job (very competitive) without moving, but I stuck with it, HARD, took risks and did it. Now I have a lovely, stress free job in the country.

 

[darrenS]

I would suggest firstly getting a resume done and contacting some agencies ... it is critical to make this step before your fired...even if the agent knows it does,nt matter but keep it naturally at a professional level..."it just wasn't a good fit" type of response. You have to move now and do whatever you can to ensure you have a solid plan b - naturally plan A would be to hold the current position as long as you can , whilst you move on plan B. The quicker you get a solid resume out there among agencies , the quicker your responses will be - and this can help in two ways , it puts you in a very strong position in your current job because you dont feel powerless and vulnerable and it gives you a chance to pick and choose what really suits you . Having said that , I would also try my best to keep a positive attitude and rather than think your toast , think of reasons why you shouldn't be - i have found repeatedly that the negative thoughts in themselves lead me at times to self defeatist type behavior that in itself accelerated and ensured my defeat. Time is of the essence here , relax ....plan...execute ...and the best of luck ...the resources you need are right in front of you

 

[darrenS]

Yes, I was fired in a foriegn country and thought it was the end of the world. I didn't own any of my furniture and watched my boss haul it away.

I had a similar situation when i first came here ..rented furniture...flat...car...fired after 3 mths - stuck it out...18 years later ..still here lol..things are ok...just miss melbourne beaches ...

 

[Justmehere]

If the firing is 100% a sure thing, then perhaps you could go to your boss and offer to resign instead.

Most companies who fire someone generally tell new possible employers simply that the person is not rehireable. They generally don't go into any details anymore because of fear of lawsuits. So the reference would not be positive, but they also may not actually say much to anyone.

Firings happen. It's really tough - but people can and do get past them and move on to better jobs all the time.

I was fired once. In my next job interview I told them upfront what went wrong in a very simple fashion, and what I learned that I could do differently in the future. I ended up getting a better job than what I interviewed for. The new boss said she was so surprised by my willingness to own my own decisions and unintended consequences, and to let the rest go, and learn from it that it was the biggest reason why she hired me. Go figure.

 

[anthony]

Sorry to hear that...

 

[livingwiththis]

I am sorry this is happening to you
I worked in a daycare and was fired for something a Co worker did because we looked alike the parent blamed me but it wasn't me but overall I was only working split shifts and only got about 5 hrs a day and split shifts such now I work as a nanny I'm pretty much my own boss I decide what to do everyday and I have guarantee employment for 4 more years and this is my second year I love the girls I watch and I love their parents I end up making more money and work less hours and it's a single shift so things always have a way of working things out
goodluck

 

[anonymous]

Thank you all for your kind kind responses and ideas. They're weighing the decision now, apparently.

Tonight I was scheduled to give a talk to an art group. I really really didn't want to go. Then I got there, then the projector didn't work and I couldn't show any of the 30-odd projects I was going to show and talk about, so I had to wing it.

I ended up talking, then sitting next to someone who might be interested in helping me hold creative workshops with veterans with PTSD through her work. She may not contact me, but this is just the foot in the door I need to start helping others and earn money doing so, so her interest was positive.

I'd like to run creative workshops with people who have PTSD to get them to work on their emotion regulation, hypervigilance, and feeling of stuckness, as well as for their family members who are trying to process their loved one's diagnosis, and think there is a market for such work, I just need to be given a chance, I hope that either this is it or a sign that I'm on the right track.

Today I realized that I am so much stronger post-PTSD diagnosis than pre-diagnosis and that this will not break me, as many of you noted above.

Thank you wholeheartedly for sharing your thoughts on this with me, it means so much to me right now!

 

[anonymous]

I got fired.

 

[joeylittle]

Ugh. I'm so sorry to hear that.

Today I realized that I am so much stronger post-PTSD diagnosis than pre-diagnosis and that this will not break me, as many of you noted above.

I'm just reinforcing and backing you up on this. Every word of it it true.

 

[Notsowild]

It is a Human Rights violation to fire someone with a Mental disability PTSD. Did your employer know about your PTSD?