Freaking Out When A Man Goes Silent

[Kam]

every relationship I'm in, I have such a strong radar for sisrespect. When I confront it, it comes out clumsy and the men go silent. I'm prone to date passive-aggressive men and had a very passive-aggressive husband who also physically handled me. After the marriage, I have become terrified of men not responding to texts. Sometimes I'm fine because they're busy, but when I sense passive-aggression in non-responsiveness.. (Which I can smell a mile away).. My security drops.. the man notices it.. Goes silent.. And I go into a freak out mode.. Texting.. Trying.. Protesting.. Then getting angry.. Saying sorry... And he still says nothing. Most of the time I write so much because I cant get out what Im trying to say (ever!). Im learning now that tequila fixes that! But please tell me that there is somebody out there who struggles with this. When my ex went silent on me.. He would to the point where I was suicidal and he still wouldnt speak.. So silence makes me think of those days.

Share your stories!

 

[numb87]

I massively struggle with this! In my experience silence is not a good sign at all and I loose my shit! I find relationships impossible. I broke up with someone 2 weeks ago and he didn't know how to end things with me so wouldn't respond to my texts for 5 hours at a time etc. It was worse than the break up itself

 

[kam]

Thanks for sharing! It blesses me :)

 

[kam]

I agree that it is way worse than the break up

 

[PittieMama]

I'm in a relationship with someone with ptsd and he does this a lot. I've had some bad relationships in the past and the silence freaks me out. He could be busy or furious at me for something I don't even know I did. I don't really have any answers, I just try to calm myself down and hope he's just busy. It's hard to know how much to try and reach out.

 

[Hazeleyez]

Yes I'm going through it right now, I've only just worked out how to deal with it for myself. I hope to just keep busy and being positive.