Friend Died

[Hashi]

I'm so very sorry for the loss of such a close friend.

I'm sure you did the best you could to take care of him. That you saw trust in his eyes when he passed attests to that.

 

[myvetswife]

Very sorry to hear about your loss.

 

[sessie]

Hugs to you! I am sure your dog knew how much you loved him and that you gave him a wonderful life. I hope that can comfort you as you grieve. :(

 

[NIKI]

Sorry your feeling so much pain right now, Bill. I've had to do the same thing...it is so painful.

 

[nursenurse]

You are too hard on yourself. He trusted you to do the right thing. Better than to see fear in his eyes. Trust me on that one. You did the right thing as gut wrenching it is. You lose a part of your heart.

 

[WillThereBeCake]

Bill, I am so sorry for the loss of your friend. I hope you will soon be able to find comfort in knowing that you not only gave him a great life, but you gave him a compassionate crossing. Being able to let him go with dignity, and with you there, is something a lot of pets, and even some people don't get. He did trust you, and you gave him that beautiful gift. I could only hope that when my times comes, I have eyes as loving as yours to look into as I pass.

I can see through your posts, and from experience, that the feelings of guilt are hard to avoid, even though we took great care of our furry friends. This too is normal, but damn if it doesn't hurt like hell. Losing a pet is as traumatic as losing a human close to us. Don't berate yourself for crying, and don't hesitate to reach out for support. Pet lovers understand and there is help available through the ASPCA if you would like [DLMURL]http://www.aspca.org/pet-care/pet-loss/[/DLMURL] There are also several books available that can help tremendously right now. One that helped me was, "How to Roar: Pet Loss Grief Recovery".

I know those are all just words, but do know that we all understand and share your grief.

 

[JustBe]

Bill, when my Dreamer passed over in 1996 it was 13 years before I was able to open my heart again. Now Kira fills a special place in my heart right next to the space that still belongs to Dreamer.

Take whatever time you need to mourn and heal. You are not alone.

 

[Bill Dickerson]

I do have another dog and she is some comfort but it's hard to watch her look for him and mope around. She will hardly leave my side.

I tried looking at some of the rescue animals online but it just upset me. I may have to get another dog for her more than me. She just seems lost. She tried to run down the street today looking for him.

It's frustrating to have all of these other flashes, memories, and feelings intrude. I'm upset enough as it is and this just makes it 10 times worse. It's so frustrating it just pisses me off.

 

[JustBe]

Is this something that you can get help with in Therapy? It sounds like help processing the things that are bubbling up and bothering you might be a good idea.

 

[Lady of Longbourn]

I am sorry for your loss and the pain it is bring up.

 

[ButterflyBean]

Your therapist is another issue that needs to be addressed, yes

Bill - I misspoke in my previous post (#9) by stating above. You didn't mention you're therapist in this post at all, so my apologies if you were confused; I must have been thinking about another member too! But as others have said, reaching out to your therapist or friends is a good idea! Don't ever be ashamed of your emotions, as they are not negotiable and are yours alone! Grief is a long, difficult, painful process that you don't have to go through alone!

I hope you can sleep peacefully tonight knowing you did your best and that he is in a better place, no longer suffering!

More hugs to you if you accept them!

~Holly

 

[Tinyflame]

I'm so sorry Bill. :( :cry: The pain is horrid.

But I am thankful he was yours. Your other pup needs you. When I owned 2 and the one died (young and unexpectedly) I did have to get another one to console him.

((((((Bill))))