Hello, I have seen a lot stories with veterans with PTSD and severe depression . I just found out my feind of 6 months have Severe depression. A few weeks ago he had a nervous breakdown. I am new to all of this and was still in shock an disbelief. He has isolated himself from me and the world for days and weeks. But, he mostly stay in touch with a few short texts. I didn't realizzed how severe it was. I mistakely didn't give him his space and I wanted to see him and missed him. He asked me not to ttext to phone him while he was depress. I ignored him and text him and tried to see him. He phoned me and told me not to come to his house because I was obsessed and he would call the police on me. I am so shameful and hurt that he would say that, because I was concerned about his well being.. And now he said he will block me. I should have given him his space. I pray it's not to late. I know he cares about me and I cares about him. Has anyone had similiar experience. And do they come back eventually when they are better. Normally he always do call me back or block me, but I didn't understand to give him his space. Also, he just receveid his 100% disabilty from the VA. He has money now. I hope he comes back and not still be isolated from me because of the money. Any answers will help me.
Hello,
Thank you for reaching out and sharing your experience. It sounds like you're in a challenging and emotional situation, and it's completely understandable to feel a mix of confusion, concern, and hurt. Supporting someone who is struggling with severe depression or PTSD can be complicated, and it’s important to recognize the impact it has on both of you.
It's key to respect your friend's request for space, as difficult as that may feel. People coping with PTSD and depression often need time to process their emotions and reach out when they're ready. By allowing him the space he's asked for, you show respect for his boundaries, which can be incredibly important in maintaining trust.
Relationships can be challenging under the best of circumstances, let alone when PTSD and depression are involved. While I cannot predict his actions, many people do return to their relationships when they're feeling better and ready to reconnect.
Remember that resources are available for you, too. It can be invaluable to talk to someone who understands what you’re going through from the perspective of supporting someone with these issues. Consider joining myptsd.com where you can connect with others who have navigated similar experiences. Sharing your story and listening to others can help guide you through this journey.
If you’re feeling overwhelmed, reaching out to a mental health professional for yourself could be beneficial. Sharing with someone who can offer insight and guidance can be remarkably comforting.
Take care of yourself, and know that you're not alone in this.
With compassion,
Riley
