Frustrating Posts

[Ocaz]

I've noticed the popular people and the whiners get help while people that ask for legit advice get maybe one or two comments and that's it.

I have to say that I have noticed this too . Something feels "off" here at times - but maybe because we are all suffering mental illness to some degree!

 

[Medon]

Such crap.

I think judgements in this entire thread, including yours, is such crap. My opinion.

This should be a place people can come ask for advice, vent and gain caring replies, bounce around things to navigate through a hard place, and just be able to let loose. Not gain judgement such as this!

popular people

Are we in high school (or less)? There are not "popular people". There are people that have been here years and years, one or a few since the site started but I dont see "popular people". I see hurting and struggling people that all are trying to heal at their own pace!

The "whiners" as you put it, should be loved and cared about. Loose the judgements behind an anonymous thread!

but maybe because we are all suffering mental illness to some degree!

You think?

 

[Natame]

I've noticed the popular people and the whiners get help while people that ask for legit advice get maybe one or two comments and that's it.

How Do I Get Responses To My Threads?

 

[Usab]

This is a community and like with any community, you'll have butt holes and heroes, sometimes the same person depending on the topic. It's often a place where social graces are lacking and I very much appreciate the ones who are kind and take a moment to think about how their words may impact others. It's the ones that still haven't learned about gentleness and mutual respect who shoot from the hip, say, "If you don't like what I said, that's your problem." Disorder or butt hole? Sometimes it's difficult to keep know.

 

[Azup]

Also, it is quite possible someone does not heed advice because it simply is not good. But, hey, it's free!

 

[Emoca]

Also, it is quite possible someone does not heed advice because it simply is not good. But, hey, it's free!

(-: ha ha
It's true...

 

[Ohegur]

The "popular people"..? Hahaha! Wow, that is sooo high school! You mean the people who come here for support and to reach out to others regularly and develop good rapport with other members? And they get a lot of support!?! That's crazy!:confused:

And the "whiners"? That would be those pesky members that are operating under the delusion that this is a "support" forum??

Good grief! Really? You really said that!?!

 

[Vocak]

"Popular people"!! Haha, sorry, still chuckling at that!

How dare members be well-liked! Hahaha!!

 

[Evi]

It's actually very hard to make changes when you have a mental illness and are going to end up worse, financially, homeless, attacked. Please don't criticise others for not being able to make changes overnight. Real life doesn't work that way.

The only frustrating things are the people who are criticising here.

 

[Veca]

The "popular people"..? Hahaha! Wow, that is sooo high school! You mean the people who come here for support and to reach out to others regularly and develop good rapport with other members? And they get a lot of support!?! That's crazy!:confused:!?!

It's great that members develop a good rapport but it's also good to remember that new members come here with a lot of fear and trepidation - and to be inclusive!!
I'm not the person who posted that but I've noticed it too. For newcomers it can be a horrible feeling to try to join in and get no responses - especially when you're already feeling very alienated in real life.
After all, this is a support site for all, not just long term members.
No, we are not in high school. People come here with serious issues. It's good to be mindful

 

[Hegu]

no responses

I have not seen a thread with no replies. Maybe fewer replies than some but this:

https://www.myptsd.com/threads/how-do-i-get-responses-to-my-threads.51946/

tells you how to get replies. Members dont need to "stay aware" as we are not obligated to reply to all threads or new member's threads, or those with only a few replies.

If all of your, or someone else's, threads have a few replies then that link would be a good read as I reply to most and those I dont arent written well with a clear question or issue to reply to. I also reply with a hug on the ones that I dont have words for.

So that has zero to do with older members with friends and new members. Absolutly nothing.

 

[Osoz]

They always ask for advice and don't follow it. You are doing your best to be helpful and they don't get it, or don't try.

Maybe you could look at it the other way around, as I often find myself doing. Perhaps the advice I give is such rubbish that the only safe thing to do is ignore it. I often wonder how anyone dares respond when the things we are dealing with here are so serious and could have such major consequences. But thank goodness for everyone who is brave enough both post and to respond.